Honestly wish I could do that. Iāve gotten so used to masking my inability to do small talk that I basically just say yes to everything. Itās super annoying and something I want to work on, but I dont really know how.
Its incorrect wording but i shorthanded it to āembrace the sociopathyā. Very nice little koan to drop on the programmed reaction iāve had to natural ASD reactions
āYou canāt do that itās sociopathic!ā No ma itās ASD and iām tired of pretending iām not to save your face.
Since the acronym for sociopath is ASPD, I will often respond with something like ānuh uh, mine has one less letterā. Pretty niche, but when someone gets it, so good.
Iām the opposite i can do small talk ( and even be charming while doing it) but, i just canāt STAND it and donāt know how to get out of it either so iāve just taken to greyrocking whenever it comes up. For the record i donāt have asd ( some people said they had it in this section) just static encephalopathy ( brain damage) and am actually quite smart just Iāve got a lot special niche interests ( sci fi, fantasy and Gorillaz to name a few) and if i donāt know you ( aka you arenāt interested in these things and / or like small talk) then I donāt want to talk to you but, if you donāt do small talk and/ or are interested in something Iām interested in GREAT! IF YOU WANT TO TALK IāM DOWN FOR IT!
Iāve always wanted to get into the Gorillaz, but never found any of their music that I like, do you have a recommendation?
Seems Germany would be heaven to this userbase.
Pose a question, expect a no-nonsense, factual answer. Donāt be offended but appreciate the candor and brevity. Get back to being productive so you can leave for a timely Feierabend like everyone else.
To be fair, this would probably still be considered very unusual in Germany. Youāre not obligated to do a while song and dance, but uf you do this I would assume itās a very deadpan joke.
I was watching a YouTube video for Americans on what not to do when visiting Germany. I was thinking that I would love to live in Germany throughout the video for the reasons you stated.
I donāt know German so I am going to assume that a Feierabend is going on a bender with Guy Fieri
I think itās the Anglicism of manners. For some reason in English we demand one lie to protect everyoneās feelings.
They have earned their reputation, good and bad.
Exceptions show nuance, but they donāt undermine this reputation to the point of irrelevance.
āBut, weāre like fAmIlY.ā
Yeah bub, thatās not a selling point. I didnāt pick them either.
Vin Diesel appears in the corner saying āUhmā¦ What did you say?ā while he is setting up a barbecue at the same time.
Dudes ready for the office culture.
I cannot tolerate office culture. Itās so unbearably insincere and manipulative in my experience.
I find the trick is to spin what I want to say into somthing positive. I canāt lie but I can avoid the questions, or just be vague.
In this situation. āWill you miss us?ā (assuming I wonāt)
āPerhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the futureā (not implying I actually want to)
āSo long everyone!ā(ignores the question, this may also end the conversation as youve given yourself an out)
āIām sure Iāll meet many new people at my next opportunityā (to them it may imply you where happy to meet them, even if you where not)
In this case, he was never going to see these people again, so no need to play the neurotypical game of lying to spare their feelings.
I love how you just COMPLETELY ignore the fact that the people have obviously not been enjoyable to be around for an extended amount of time
Having to spend time around people you donāt enjoy? perfectly fine
making those people a little sad once? how dare you
āPerhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future.ā
I couldnāt help but read that in a generic Vulcan voice that was a mix of Spock and the āWe aināt found shit!ā guy.
The āwe aināt found shitā guy from Spaceballs was a Vulkan in Star Trek Voyager, Tim Russ played Tuvok. So really, you can read it in just Tuvokās voice.
I was joking that Tim Russ complains that is the role he is known for. I personally know him more as Tuvok, but thatās because my parents wouldnāt let me watch Spaceballs, so I saw Voyager first
Well it does say āinfront if everyoneā. I assumed that also includes coleuages. Co workers are not corporate overlords.
Iām not saying itās a good thing, itās another dumb micro ceremony regardless. And if you in a position where you donāt have to play the stupid games then I envy you. But my advice my be of some use for those us poor bastards who need to play along.
