Vito is probably the easiest for your average “what’s your name?” Queries at a coffeeshop. But I think Vitaly would also work since it’s just the word “Vital” with a Y added to the end. I’m sorry you had to move because of the Russians :(

Is it spelt Вітaлій or Віталію in Ukrainian? I don’t think I’d have any problem pronouncing or spelling your name in it’s romanized form, but I did complete the duolingo Ukrainian course so I have a little bit of familiarity with the language.

You’ve probably noticed the different ways Зеленский is spelt in English; Zelenskyy, zelensky, zelenskiy… Й doesn’t translate seamlessly to English and ий is even harder. I’d say Zelensky is the easiest to read/spell for English people. On that basis I’d go with Vitaly for strangers.

I can’t see why your English friends and co-workers can’t get used to Vitalii though. It’s really not that hard. But then I have a very common first name of French origin and a common Irish surname. It’s extremely rare for someone to pronounce my name correctly 🤷🏼‍♀️

Радий знайомству Віталій. Слава Україні!

What about just Vit? I have a colleague with that name. Come to think of it, he might have Slavic roots given his last name. Maybe he’s actually also a Vitalii ;)

Maybe go for shorter version: Vito

People tend to misspel my name with c instead of k at the end so to make things easier for everyone I go by Dom

I would definitely suggest losing the second i at the end perhaps, that looks weird. Or maybe go for “Vitaly” (which you can tell people spells like V + Italy).

(Incidentally, a couple years back, I had email contact with someone named “Vitalis”, which I thought sounded like a female and vaguely flower-y name. Only when we finally met in person did I notice he was male. Somehow he didn’t seem too irritated by me having misgendered him in multiple emails.)