I just tell them I don’t have any social media at all. Im not gonna start explaining lemmy or even reddit for that matter to someone who was asking for socials like insta and fb.

I don’t, I guess. I don’t really have a lot of conversations in real life about my social media activity. My wife knows I’m mad at Reddit, and that I installed a new app on her phone to scroll memes. 😂

I tell them about privacy (which was the same for Reddit for me), if they don’t care, I don’t convince them.

My main reason is that I don’t give a fuck about the person behind the content in most cases. Other sites put a much larger emphasis on following content creators, not content categories.

Not sure if you’re distinguishing social media from messenging. I am, so as far as discussing social media:

I don’t. Why would I? In Germany, at least for the 30+ population WhatsApp is the basic consensus for instant messaging (albeit there seems to be a trend towards instagram as a messenger - sharing instagram handles instead of phone numbers among younger people?). I’ll have to accept that, or not communicate.

Anyways, I have a handful of people who are on Signal, a couple of people on Telegram, one on Threema, and I installed them all and use DM Me to pick the “best available” option if I need to start a conversation with someone and can’t just reply to a notification.

As for other social media (lemmy), people either know it, or they don’t care either way. Zero reason for discussions.