To preface, i do have some trauma, regarding two separate incidents that happened years ago and years apart, but since the last i have found it difficult to be outside sober without getting very anxious about my safety.
Walking past anyone, the potential of locking eyes or the potential of random people talking to me are things i worry about or become almost fixated on regardless of who they are and who im with. I cant just walk down a street, even busy ones without being hyper vigilant.
Has anyone ever gotten over this kind of anxiety? If so, how?
(Ive been to therapy and I’ve already processed a lot of what happened, but i still get this anxiety when leaving the house or just being outside in the streets)
Hypervigilance is rough. I’ve been to various types of talk therapy and what has helped the most is somatic therapies - therapy that deals more with the body and processing emotions as they occur physically. People who have been through traumatic events often stifle what they are feeling, to the extent that often it can be difficult to even put a name to the emotion you’re experiencing. I remember early on my therapist would ask me, “And where are you feeling this [pain/anger/sadness] in the body?”
When you’re out and feel this sort of hypervigilance, try and remember that question. It helps rebuild those connections and gets rid of a lot of that floaty, anxious sort of feeling that comes from being ill at ease.
I imagine you already have but have you tried sun glasses and headphones? I find the headphones usually give me an out of most conversations and even though sunglasses typically get me more looks I don’t feel as awkward about making eye contact
So this is called agoraphobia, literally “fear of the market space” but more colloquially, fear of being outside. Its frequently paired with panic disorder and in your case apparently with PTSD. I’m not sure I can tell you what to do to make it easier as each case is distinct, but the general thing that needs to happen is that you gradually expose yourself to the thing you fear for longer periods of time until your brain accepts that it is safe to do. Of course you want to only go to expose yourself to places where rationally you know it is quite safe even though the frightened part of you doesn’t believe it. This is where your trauma needs to be taken into account.
Thank you for the reply, I do go outside, almost everyday actually, I see friends and everything. Sometimes i really dont want to, but do so anyway. But still cant shake this feeling, im super sociable, go to events for music etc. but when im just out, or at a bar, i cant help but have this feeling. Im still working on it I guess
It can help to treat that part of you which is super anxious like you would a frightened child you found yourself taking care of. Speak kindly to that part and see if you can gain their trust. See if there are others parts that criticize and ask them why are they doing that?
Sorry for the late reply, I dont go on Lemmy often enough.
I try to speak kindly to myself as frequently as possible, and rarely find criticism from within when it comes to these kinds of issues. I don’t think the issue is necessarily how I talk to myself. I dont really know what to do
