Oh no, my miserable life that’s devoid of any connection and anyone altogether otherwise *at least contains a friend.
What the fuck man, is this a real concern average people have that I’m way too fucking alienated to understand
On the converse, I tried to take a relationship with a close friend to the next level.
It did not go well and we do not talk anymore
Yeah see, even if I was deeply interested in a romantic relationship with that person, I’d never take it to the next level and stay within boundaries out of fear of not losing them.
Is that conceited?
Nah, it just seems like a defense mechanism I guess. As @red_stapler@hexbear.net, we learned our lessons.
Wish I had thought like you did at the time. Oh well. Maybe in another life.
Did you secretly like them or did you admit it? And did they secretly know or only know after you admitted it?
It’s men who feel women are obligated to be their gf and or provide them with sex so they get pissed off when someone rightfully wants to just be a friend.
It’s because they hate women and see them only as something to boost their social status. Like a house or car.
If they are friends with a woman with no prospect of fucking, in their minds that makes them of lesser status.
It’s all misogynist pop psychology bullshit.
Yeah, agreed about the misogyny.
Also, as I think about it, what if it partially stems from people politely rejecting others, after a date, by telling them they just want to be friends when they don’t actually mean it?
I’ve had that shit happen to before and it kind of blows. Went on a date with a cool, attractive girl in a new city where I didn’t know anyone, and she let me know afterwards that she thinks I’m cool but just wants to be friends. I was like ‘fuck yeah, I don’t give a shit’ but we never spoke after that :( Don’t say it if you don’t mean it, but then again maybe I should have put in more effort into staying in contact with her.
What if it partially stems from people politely rejecting others, after a date, by telling them they just want to be friends when they don’t actually mean it?
Unfortunately, that can happen, but keep in mind that rejecting men is often very dangerous for women and they have to be very careful not to seem unfriendly. It’s probably not personal or intentionally cruel, but rather an automatic defense mechanism.
Unfortunately, that can happen, but keep in mind that rejecting men is often very dangerous for women and they have to be very careful not to seem unfriendly.
That’s a factor that people in this thread that are going “won’t someone think of the friendzoned men and their unique and unfathomable pain” either don’t see or refuse to see.
I mean, having romantic feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same is a bummer. Like, you should get over it because obsessing over that is teenager shit. But it’s still a bummer.
