My most common sin is inadvertently bringing up painful or offensive topics.
Someone’s dad died last week? You can bet I’ll forget and start talking about Dads on accident. In fact, it happens so often that I almost think my subconscious does remember and that’s how it ends up on my mind.
Generally stuff like that is held against someone when they didn’t even know their dad died, or didn’t realize that that particular person would overreact by being reminded of something that doesn’t seem associated.
Basically, caring far more about someone’s reaction than intent (or lack thereof) that accidentally upsetting someone is breaking a social norm.
Yep. I got in trouble for this exact thing, except I mentioned my father and it was their mother who had recently died. Oh, and I didn’t know this person, like I didn’t even know their name because I had literally just met them. How I was supposed to know their mom had recently died I have no idea. It ended my friendship with the person I did know after I was called all manner of unrepeatable things.
I’m neurotypical, or at least haven’t been diagnosed with anything, but that sounds like a huge overreaction from you ex-friend. To me the way that should have gone is:
- you mention father
- new acquaintance gets upset
- you apologise, perhaps stating you didn’t know about their mother and you’re so sorry
- everyone tries to move on to another topic
If they wanted me to follow some rules that I’m apparently expected to know to make everyone comfortable, maybe they should’ve taught me that in school instead of trigonometry -_-
Did you intentionally mention everyone back to the OP, or is that just how your instance works?
Oh I didn’t mean disrespect against it, it is just the first school-soundy thing that came to mind.
With that said I I will admit I couldn’t tell you off the top of my head what trigonometry actually is.
With that said I I will admit I couldn’t tell you off the top of my head what trigonometry actually is.
It’s the study of the geometry of triangles (trigon - three-sided polygon + metry - roughly measurement of, with an extra o to join them together). You can use the basic principles of some parts of it to make life easier.
For example, the “3-4-5 rule”, based on the Pythagorean Theorem. If you need to make sure that something is roughly a 90° angle measure 3 units up one side and mark it, 4 units up the other and mark it, then measure the distance between the marks. If it is 5 units, then you have a 90° angle. The super cool thing is that you can use any unit used to measure linear distance; inches, angstroms, furlongs, kilometers, beard-seconds, whatever.
I used to think like this but let’s be honest, it’s not a fair shake. Social services should be somewhat capable of making up for poor, abusive, or absent parenting. School being the one social service children are practically guaranteed to interact with, it seems like a fair approach.
In this scene, everyone is annoyed at Homer because he put on his weird music. “Don’t play your weird music“ is definitely one of those rules I keep defying
just never be around people and you won’t have this issue
works great
I once went to a BBQ and explained to them how to cook a burger. I also did a few other things too, like explaining to people how x or y worked.
A few years later my therapist broke down all the problematic things I did and explained why I wasn’t invited in later years.
