61 points

And building yourself back out of depression once treatment starts isn’t an overnight thing

I was diagnosed like 3 months ago at 29

It’s a night and day difference but it’s still a bit rough at times

But I’m working on it and now that I’m able to stay focused on a task it’s easier than before, but it’s not easy

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If you don’t mind me asking, as a stranger, did you start meds? My partner was recently diagnosed at 28, and started meds, but I’m not sure how well they’re working.

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I did start meds but I’ve noticed that the key factor in how well they work is how I spend the first hour of my day.

If I open YouTube or social media the day is a wash.

If I start the day making breakfast listening to music with the idea of doing things that day, it goes great.

One thing that really helps me go with the second option is having a tab already open from the day before that has a playlist I can just start. And it’s the only one open.

I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD so my experience may be different than someone diagnosed with Hyperactive ADHD.

Also be sure that they’re doing more than just meds, education about various ways of managing ADHD in conjunction with meds will lead to far better outcomes than those things separately.

Or maybe the meds don’t work for them and they need to try something different. One of my friends tried 3 different meds before they landed on one that worked.

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39 points

Do I have untreated ADHD? I hate this.

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You are voluntarily here and finding common ground with an ADHD meme. If you’ve felt like there’s something different about you and have been waiting for a Sign, this is it.

Just keep an open mind, since a lot of different things can cause ADHD like symptoms. “I actually don’t have ADHD” is also important information, and a good psychiatrist or therapist can help guide you to wherever the truth lies.

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11 points

I’ve had a feeling that I might have it for a while but idk what to do. It seems like there’s probably not a sureshot way to know I have it? And if I don’t, it’ll always feel like an excuse to other people.

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Talk to your doctor and/or psychiatrist and they can’t test and diagnose. Even being diagnosed, I still often feel like I’m just making excuses when something stems from my ADHD, but it’s important to remember that it’s not fair to yourself to downplay your own challenges. Acknowledging the challenges you face, and their affects on your life is not making excuses. It’s being honest with yourself about what you experience.

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6 points

What happens after a diagnosis though?

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Also I have one question. I’ve always done reasonably well on exams by cramming on the last day (more like last night) when the pressure is extreme. That doesn’t take away from the fact that I could have it right? Like I’m good at cramming something under pressure and vomiting it out the next day, but am also awful at something that would require regular periodic studying.

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Thanks. I hope it goes well. I don’t see my mom being thrilled if it comes down to needing medication.

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13 points

This is literally the diagnostic criteria: https://add.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/adhd-questionnaire-ASRS111.pdf

Have a go and see if the questions resonate

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Ha, wow. I think I need to make an appointment 😅

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5 points

Thank you so much for that link.
A lot of these questions hit close to my own experiences. I should really get something done about this.

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5 points

OOF

I was wondering why all these memes were attacking me so much…

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Thank you.

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1 point

They really do resonate…Maybe not all but quite a few.

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4 points

I was thinking the same thing, then i remembered I’m just useless…

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31 points

Autistic and ADHD, meds helped but the side effects were awful for me, so I’m just a mess.

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For sure. I was diagnosed at age 7or8 took meds till my 16 but stopped. I am 28 now and learned to live with it. The meds aren’t a cure all solution. I didn’t feel myself when taking them and i tried a bunch. It doesn’t sit right rather be myself and learn to live with myself and look for people who can live with me.

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Yup. Also applies if you’re diagnosed but having to rawdog all of it because your body can’t tolerate either ADHD meds or antidepressants. So you’re stuck trying to kludge together solutions with behavioral, cognitive and lifestyle changes and it’s like trying to build a sand castle with powdered sugar. Maybe you can make something stick together a bit, but one big sneeze and it’s all gone.

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@dumptruckdan @ickplant Damn. Sympathy from an internet stranger. 😨

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What’ve been the most helpful changes you’ve made? I know it all depends on the person, but I’m interested.

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My phone has been a lifesaver for remembering things. I grew up in the days of paper planners, so it’s a real treat to be able to set up reminders etc. Prior to that I used lists and post-it notes. Post-it notes are tricky because if you use them a lot they become part of the scenery, so getting an assortment and changing to a different color note helped me to notice them.

For developing habits, instead of “do it for 30 days and it’ll stick” (lmao) I try to shoot for progressively more consistency over time. So when getting back in the habit of flossing, every day was overwhelming but I could do once per week which was better than nothing. Then every other day. Now I do it daily. Does this work with everything? No but when it works it works. In other words don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Some > none.

Mindfulness is not a cure-all but it is a good building block. I practiced just being present and noticing my thoughts. Noticing thoughts allowed me to start observing my train of thought to see where exactly it derails and keeps me from getting things done. If I can figure out where I’m getting distracted I can create workarounds for those. Sometimes I have to literally make a diagram of the thought pattern, like a flowchart, to see what’s happening.

I also made a list of my main goals in life including the pedestrian ones like eating healthier and doing creative things, and posted a thing on my fridge to help remember to do something towards those goals every day that I feel up to it. That cuts down on the amount of time I spend in neutral gear wondering what to do with my time. If I don’t know wtf else to do then at least I can do something small that will advance a life goal.

The last thing I’ll say is give yourself some grace. Nobody has their shit together. Some people just fake it better. Reward yourself whenever you make progress and go out of your way to point out to yourself when you accomplished something or successfully used a cognitive tool. That voice in your head that says you’re dumb and can’t do anything? It’s a jerk, don’t listen to it. Go out of your way to rub your successes in its face.

That’s all I got, hope it helped.

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26 points

Even treated this is me 😭 Vyvanse helps Zoloft helps but this is still my daily struggle.

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I agree that I still struggle with the social stuff a lot. The meds do help me with executive functioning tremendously, but they are not a panacea.

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