I know this has to be a common thing or at least I assume it to be but whenever I hear people talk about ADHD they describe the procrastination but also mention that usually their anxiety/fear of missing a due date pushes them to do it last minute and I just don’t feel this. I never feel that anxiety about missing and assignment and I don’t get that extra motivation to do it so it usually doesn’t get done. Then when it doesn’t get done I say oh no and move on, doesn’t cross my mind until I look at my grades and wonder how this could have possibly happened.
Idk where I’m going with this but it is a behavioral pattern I noticed about myself and don’t like. I think it originated from gradeschool because I was able to get by without doing any homework so I trained myself to not care about those but thats mainly speculation.
Anyone know how to idk mitigate this? I can’t be the only one
me reading this while procrastinating extremely heavily on that D&D campaign I’m supposed to write and start running in 3 days
“huh, this sounds familiar”
I started dming last month I never feel prepared but my players like it. Big anxiety is always that they lie to me bc they are my friends. They do tell me to take it more slowly so I guess I prep enough. One thing with setting is you can also kinda change things here or there on the fly to let players have fun. Don’t stress if the game wanders off course, your building a story with your players. You got this
It shouldn’t be too unmanageable. It’s a fairly linear dungeon crawl only meant to go for four sessions
I have ADHD inattentive and this was me before the urgency thing developed but it developed like fucked up so that it was just a source of anxiety. Dont look at it like a personal failing, you might need accommodations. I really wish that stuff existed when I was in school. It took me a long time to undo some of the ways I fucked myself up over the years. Some I’ll probably never undo. Take this seriously!
One thing that really helped me overcome that complete lack of a stress response and learn how to study after avoiding it until college was putting myself into the right environments for certain things. I had no issues actually getting stuff done in class but at home there’s no external motivator to getting stuff done, I learnt i’d have to force myself to walk to the library every week at the same time to get any studying done.
Works for a lot of facets of life, if I want to workout I know I have to drag myself to the gym every week because i’m not going to workout regularly at home, if I want to watch a movie i’ll go see it at the cinema because i’ll pause it every 15 minutes if I watch it on TV.
What I did was really lean into my anxiety disorder and become a hypervigilant mess unable to relax
I do not suggest this, it’s painful and hard to undo
I do have a sense of urgency but it’s insufficient to actually motivate me into doing something. I would recommend trying to block out times for you to work on things in advance, but ik this can be it’s own issue. Going somewhere else to do work can help too
