Droggelbecher
Good to know, thanks! I’ve had some small lacerations from bicycle and scooter accidents that weren’t too bad, but I can imagine how much worse it’d be if they’re all over. I hope my protective clothing will at least prevent some of that. If nothing else, I’ll take the fact that I don’t have balls as a small solace.
It’s a good, important step that you know this about yourself. But yeah, for both of your long term happiness, as well as for your friendship, it’ll be very important to talk about the kind of relationship you have. Even if it’s super tough and mightn’t have the outcome you’d like. But the resentment it would inevitably breed if you couldn’t date because you don’t know where you stand with your friend wouldn’t be healthy for your friendship. Maybe it’s easier to not do it all at once?
Either way, your situation sounds tough. Best of luck to the both of you!
Bit of a different take from many of the other comments.
Relationships don’t have to be the way they are traditionally. You don’t have to be monogamous. You can be in two relationships, one of which is romantic, one of which is a strong friendship with sexual aspects. It’d be under the polyamory umbrella. There’s plenty of potential partners out there who are ok with or would even want this kind of a constellation.
The very important caveat though: even more so than in any other kind of close relationship, this requires a LOT of communication. You need to clarify with your best friend what kind of a relationship it is that you have. You don’t have to label it, but you have to figure out together what you want from each other and what your boundaries are. The latter includes what kind of relationships you’re ok with the other one having with someone else. Then, when you date someone else, you have to have the same conversations and be open about your other relationship(s). I’d be upfront about the latter, the former can happen over time.
If none of this sounds like something you’d want, that’s of course perfectly valid. The point stands though that you need to clarify with each other what you want from your relationship and what your boundaries and needs are. This might mean having to change your relationship dynamic.
Some context: my best friend and I are super close and find each other sexually attractive, but aren’t romantically interested in each other. We’ve talked about that and keep checking in. We’ve done some second base things and cuddled. I now have a partner that’s decidedly monogamous. Now, I might still lightly cuddle with my best friend, but we wouldn’t kiss anymore. Those are all boundaries that had to be talked through.
Unironisch danke, dass du dich mit dem Rad an die Ampeln hältst- von einer Person, die hauptsächlich zu Fuß und mit Öffis unterwegs ist. Muss denen, dies nicht tun, mehrmals am Tag ausweichen. Vom Prinzip her sind sie mir natürlich trotzdem lieber also die Autofahris.
Possibly controversial: if it’s obvious they don’t like it, don’t put it on them. They’re living beings, not dolls.
The short time after smartphones but before free EU roaming was the prime days of offline map apps that you specifically downloaded for each city
Some people feel attacked when their privileges are pointed out. They’ll hear ‘white people* have it easier than people of colour in many situations’ and what they’ll understand is ‘you’re what’s wrong with the world because you’re white’. Seems to be a common enough misunderstanding.
*ethnicity is just an example here
Depending on how much you hate hair that’s only half dry, towelling the shit out of it or only using the hair dryer for a shorter time. Then air dry. I do the latter over night so I don’t notice the wetness, keeping a towelly bonnet on. Also, the dryer works better if you brush your hair the whole time while holding it into the air stream.
