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Oof. My mother has borderline personality disorder (BPD), and I have definitely felt similar to this throughout my life.
Have you checked out r/raisedbynarcissists or r/raisedbyborderlines?
Fyi, if you haven’t learned it yet, you will learn soon in your life that attempting to help/fix her is an absolutely pointless endeavor. Point blank, full stop. It only hurts you. Cluster B personality disorders (which your mom shows sooo many signs of) are notoriously terrible at being helped, even by trained therapists. You must keep her at arms length, and focus on healing yourself.
A therapist would be very helpful in navigating your relationship with her.
You forgot “Only uses 10+ year old librebooted Thinkpad” on tech paranoid
Grats on Arch Linux install, S-tier distro for what it attempts to accomplish.
For some reason, the best word to describe it in my mind is “fun”. Just fun to learn and play with, fun to install, fun to configure and customize, and fun to daily drive. Definitely not fun when a random package update breaks your system (looking at you grub), but that hardly ever happens anymore provided you don’t enable the testing repo.
Also pacman is the fastest package manager I’ve ever used.