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LastOneStanding

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Hi. I’m Tony. It’s really nice to bee here!!

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I’m new here but since you asked and this is the first thing I see in my feed, I’ll tell you. My mom died the day before yesterday. So, not starting the week off as I’d like to. I didn’t like the way I was informed about. A very impersonal and uppity email from my older sister I am not on speaking terms with. So, I’ll just plod along and find a bright side somewhere! To all of you who are having it rough this week: I’m hoping things get better for you.

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I actually found your point of view a good way to think about this… To me, it suggests that masculinity needs to be redefined or the dichotomy “masculine versus feminine” needs to be forgotten about. In different cultures that have a dichotomy of masculine versus feminine, the definitions or, if you will, characteristics that define them are different, often radically so. Why can’t it be manly to play with flower arrangements and hand out flowers to children? Sounds perfectly fine to me. Humans give meaning to body parts and behaviors with language. Depending on the society they live in, those meanings vary and evolve over time. Fashion trends in the Western world is possibly a way to understand this. Historically, the clothes that men and women wear that is “fashionable” changes over time. Sometimes prints are OK for men, sometimes they aren’t. Maybe everything needs to be considered OK for everybody.

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Oh, man, This is so hard. I feel for you. She could be testing you. She’s waiting for you to say something back. This type of testing could be good or bad. She could be testing you to see if you have the courage to complain about what she’s doing. She could be testing you to see if you get impatient and explode so she has a reason to complain about you. She might like you, she might not like you. You are mature in your attitude because you don’t feel like you need to be friends with or like the people you work with to work with them in a productive way. Maybe she is totally immature and just has it out for you because she doesn’t like your hair or whatever random reason. Her behavior is most definitely immature, because this is what children do with teachers. I’m a teacher, this is what some children do with new teachers. They press the buttons, push the envelope, read and interpret the rules and try to test them out. I have had so many co-workers like this. Six months is a long time to be working with her and never have a dead moment in the work day when she actually tries to engage you in casual conversation, so it might happen soon. With co-workers like this, when there is a dead moment in the shift and for whatever reason this type of person wants to make casual conversation, I just make like they aren’t talking to me, like I never even heard them. It really makes them angry to the point of almost hostility. After that, these types of petty nonsense interactions while working disappear for me because they realize they are not getting anywhere and have no power over me. This is what, in the end, she is testing. Her power. At some point, she will realize that she has none, just like you. I really hope there is a dead moment when she tries to make casual conversation, because it really is pivotal for people like her when you ignore them. I’ve even done the lovely thing of saying, when they get in my face because I’m ignoring them, “sorry, not here for chit-chat. if it’s work-related I might be all ears for you, not that it really matters, you’re the same as me.” After that, I have been left alone to do my job and, sometimes, I’ve even made a friend, actually. The first person I did this to like 20 years ago is actually a good friend of mine now, so many years later, when we have our careers yadda yadda and don’t work together anymore.

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This is why the last Nintendo I used was a Nintendo GameCube. The last Playstation I used was a PS2. I just started to game on a PC. Console gaming might become a thing of the past if people get tired of this type of thing. You can hook a laptop or PC up to a TV now if you want.

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I think you’ve hit upon what medical anthropology needs to sort out as a discipline. To be specific: What constitutes a moral position versus a phenomenological observation about a cultural phenomenon that assigns meaning to biology and anatomy? It is quite an interesting problem you have highlighted. This does not, in my opinion, question medical anthropology as a valid scientific field of study. It’s something to think about, research, and talk about to improve the field, which is a fascinating field, indeed, and totally worthwhile.

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Thank you. I lost her quite a while ago because my older sister cut off my ability to communicate with my mother quite a while ago. I live on another continent so I couldn’t really do much about that to fight it. In a lot of ways, I mourned the loss of my mother a long time ago, so her actual physical death is something that I already mourned. Still, it really sucks, but my mom was unwell for quite a while, and she is no longer unwell. That’s a good thing. Thanks for being so nice with your comment. I’ll be just fine. Situations like this in my personal life remind me about all the things I need to do to protect people from these kinds of unpleasant situations that are unfair.

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I remember how much I loved using Solaris in the 1990s in the computer lab at college. People still use Solaris? I never saw something as elegant and intuitive as Solaris in those old days.

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This is important. I also question the idea that copyright law might be “broken.” It might need an update, as most laws do, simply because it’s behind the times. The whole conception of this video is to spread doubt, from its sensationalist headline to the content, from which you have extracted the key points of it that wish to spread doubt. Legal systems worldwide need to catch up and develop as fast as technology and software develops now. That’s the problem. Nothing broken here. Outdated? Perhaps.

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I really like this. She’s probably waiting for a new hire to pick on.

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