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Outset2568

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I’ve tried seeking help several times. Doctors haven’t been particularly helpful (some have just fobbed me off) and the most I got were a few art therapy sessions with a charity a few years back.

Last year after my last breakup I self-referred to the NHS with depression and the most I got was an online cognitive behavioral therapy course that I really could have studied from a book. There was a years-long waiting list before COVID and now things are somehow even worse.

Even trying to go private has been a no-go because every therapist in my city is overbooked.

Fortunately I have private health insurance from my workplace, so I may be able to get therapy through that.

there is a lot of (deserved) hurt and anger that needs to be addressed.

In what respect? It seems worded in a way that implies I deserve what I get, and that is something I really don’t understand.

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Sounds like you’re after a dance belt, which is what professional dancers use to support their genitalia and help to hide erections.

But I’m also of the opinion that if you’re dancing really close with a guy, especially if grinding is involved, then boners should be expected.

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Damn that is one helluva load. Has that guy been supplementing on magnesium and zinc or something?

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Being dominated by a lady. As in she ties me to a chair and sexually tortures me.

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For gay hookups, 100%. The thing is, I’m (mostly) heterosexual and want my first time to be with a woman.

I’ve also heard from gay friends that Grindr isn’t that good either.

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I think online dating apps are meant to be soul destroying by design. Finding success is bad for business because it means you’ll delete the app and won’t get suckered in to paying the same cost of several MMO subscriptions for premium.

What hookup apps exist for straight people? Only one I’m aware of is Adult Friend Finder and I’ve heard that one is pretty expensive and seems shady as fuck.

I have considered looking at sex/swinger parties but wouldn’t know how to go looking for them. I also thought swinger communities would only be for existing couples looking to open up their relationship, not single people.

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Actually in the same boat as you. 31 here, haven’t done the deed yet and I’m seriously considering going down the escort route.

My dating experiences have ranged from bad to terrible. Ladies here tend to be incredibly frigid.

Here in the UK, prostitution is legal but many things commonly associated with the sex industry (brothels, pimping, kerb crawling, soliciting sex in a public place) are criminalised. But I still think I’d rather go to the Netherlands or Germany since they have fully regulated sex industries.

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I considered dance classes before, but they’ve often been at times really inconvenient for me.

Pets aren’t really an option right now. Unfortunately I still live with parents (much of my country is too damn expensive for a single guy to even rent an apartment in, let alone buy a home.) My parents are vehemently against getting animals.

Btw one dirty advice from the books: if you’re trying for a woman that’s not single, you’re competing against one guy. If she is single, you’re competing against everyone. It may not be nice, but everything is fair in war and love, right

Jacking another man’s girl goes against my moral code.

I’d argue the inverse that you may be competing with just one guy, but convincing a lady to leave her existing relationship or even cheat is harder.

Also, would you really want to date somebody who is unwilling to stay loyal to their partner?

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I don’t get the obsession with wanting as many communities as possible federated with LemmyNSFW. Nobody’s going to use their account from another instance to post here…

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I’d buy/play a lot more of them if I could hide adult-only games from my Steam profile. The problem is everybody would know I was a pervert if I even bought one.

There are a few I’ve been interested in, like Tower of Succubus, Quickie: A Love Hotel Story, and another I don’t quite remember the name of.

I’m far more likely to be interested in a game if there’s scenes that cater to my kinks, i.e. femdom, leotards, bondage.

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