Velociraptor
All I look for Is a willingness to speak to others in good faith and for there to be a referee intervention when that isn’t respected. “Safe space” has been so twisted and ridiculed that it’s hard to use it and not feel some of the inflection of entitlement that’s been imparted to it. Safe for me is an end to needless hostility in conversation and being able to talk without someone else launching a curio cabinet of their favorite ad hominems at you. So far I’ve found beehaw to be a bit more in line with this than tildes, but both communities have a lot of room left to establish what they want to be.
I’m confused as to why you’d post such a reddit-esque bait statement when so many of the responses are civil, patient, and respectfully explaining viewpoints without attacking OP. Don’t you think discourse can be better than that? Don’t you want to at least give it a chance?
The new direction is more than fair honestly. I both really appreciate and sympathize with the need to point out that these hostile bad faith responses are upsetting. For a long time, commentary on attack dogging a forum has had to sidestep the issue that having to deal with this shit is emotionally draining. It’s reasonable that there is a place for eveyrone at the table but the chairs have an emergency eject for diners who start throwing food. It’s bad enough that everyone still eating has to finish their meal with a mess everywhere.
As a FTM, I don’t find there to be any specific endorsement of body views in the article. Rather, he is being transparent with who he has in mind, which is extremely helpful to someone like myself. It lets me know how to approach the text for my own use.
I think immediately dismissing the author as harmful merely because he’s exacting in his disclaimers is a disappointing take. If it isn’t applicable to you, that’s fine. Going so far as to lob accusations over body image is pretty rough - more so when you’re not the target audience. Finding good sources speaking to the FTM experience is so rare and it saddens me to see anyone want to tear it down right out of the gate.
I wish we as a species would just drop this trend of having to eventually ruin a good thing just about every goddam time.
At least one of them is just not leaving the house for the time being. It’s tempting to do the same thing but I need to at least leave for groceries and shit. Can’t afford delivery.
edit: I should also mention I live in a state where they are legislating away treatment for both adults and minors and we’re just hoping the courts can come through eventually with protecting us.
In the past week, I’ve had three other transmen in my various circles tell me about being followed in a public place in my state (not even in the same parts of the state, mind you) being harassed by someone with their hand on their open carry gun. Unfortunately I feel like we’re going to be seeing more of this shit. I’m trying to be careful with where I go in general but I’ve gotten especially homebound since June started.
Why would it be a mistake? If you want to have blue hair, go for it. Life is short and dyed hair is for everyone.
I’d like to see the results if you feel like posting it!