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Yes it does work both ways, that’s a misandrist and sexist statement as well. I’m very well aware of what feminism is, I’ve been one my entire life and have studied it in school. My wife is the breadwinner in our family, I have a tattoo paying tribute to Lisbeth Salander (my favourite fictional character) and as a writer have made sure to put strong female characters at the forefront who aren’t reliant on men. I make an effort to support strong female characters in media. All of this despite having an abusive mom who I refused to allow to colour my views of all women.
That you are so dismissive of what I’m probably saying because I’m a man says more about you and where your values lay. You’d rather push people away who likely mostly agree with you because of their gender and your distrust and animosity towards them.
I showed this entire thread to my wife devoid of context and while she could see where you’re coming from, she argued that is not true feminism, just misandry and wanting “revenge” on men. To claim that you have the right to attack, insult and go after people because of their gender is not feminism, it’s misandry. These types of proclamations are not helpful and only creates more division. I say that as someone who has also voted left my entire life. This is very much a “men are the enemy, us vs them” attitude because of your experiences.
The fact that Beehaw continues to allow this rhetoric is incredibly hypocritical. What you’re claiming is that it’s okay to be hurtful and offensive to a gender because previously you lacked the power to do so. That is in no way acceptable and doesn’t make you much better than what you’re criticizing. If Beehaw tolerates this type of dialogue then they should fully support men doing the same (which they shouldn’t either). That is actual equality.
I am unlikely to return to this instance anymore as I find it extremely hypocritical and unwelcoming. That admins and mods will tolerate these kinds of comments attacking an entire gender is unfair, unequal and shows me that the mission statement they claim is false. “A petty hill to die on” should’ve been a lighthearted thread, not an excuse to repeatedly insult someone’s gender (which is a characteristic they can’t help).
This is incredibly misandrist, sexist and offensive. I am for all equality and this is clear bigotry targeting a gender and generalizing with made up statistics. This type of rhetoric is no different to me than a male incel spewing hatred about women, it’s unacceptable.
Beehaw apparently prides itself on being a welcome and inclusive community and this is completely counter to it. I cannot imagine a man being able to write the things you’re writing about women and getting away with it on here. You’ve already been warned by an admin that your rhetoric is misandrist and you keep going.
So is Beehaw actually an inclusive community or is it hypocritical and tolerating these types of comments about someone’s gender? I’d genuinely like to know. I had actually deleted my original account and have come back to make this one last comment. Beehaw defederates from instances like Lemmy.world for being problematic and yet I haven’t seen a single comment about women, men or anyone else that targets them to this level there. Is claiming 95% of a gender are awful acceptable to say here because it’s men? Does this site actually strive for the equality and inclusiveness it claims or is that false?