ZenGrammy
I’m late to the party but one of my favorite places on Reddit was MomForAMinute, where people could stop by and share their news or vent or talk about whatever they need to and get internet Mom Hugs. It was such a wholesome place.
Hi all! I’m another Reddit refugee I guess. I just couldn’t abide by their policies any longer so I deleted my 13 years of comments and my account and here I am.
I’m “just” a boring suburban housewife with an awesome dog and progressive political views these days, but I used to work in medical billing and I’ve raised two boys and two stepkids who are still in my life even though I left their dad many years ago. Five years ago my body decided to rebel against me and make me have a stroke. I am largely healed from that but it took away my active hobbies and I’m technically disabled due to chronic pain and some memory issues.
I have Huntington’s Disease. I’m pre-symptomatic right now. I inherited it from my mother, who is currently living at a nursing home. I’d be stoked to find people who could relate to the whole genetic disorder thing. It’s a heavy burden sometimes.
I’ve been active on forums on and off since the late 90’s. I used to be a mod back when that was a new thing. I enjoy cooking and solitude and playing The Sims. I have a wonderful husband who also loves solitude, and we enjoy our solitude in the same house but different rooms most of the time.
I keep in touch with my friends and family through digital means for the most part because I can’t drive. I meditate and loosely follow the Buddhist principles of letting go of negative emotions when possible and appreciating what is around me. I am a work in progress.
I actually created an account because the moderator at r/simpleliving took a poll a few days ahead of he protest and set up a new community for us here. I had heard rumblings about Lemmy but hadn’t checked it out and her post is what convinced me to do it. It was a small subreddit but I think most of us are here now.
No Mud, No Lotus, The Art of Transforming suffering by Thich Nhat Hanh. It’s obviously a book about Buddhism in general but the “transforming suffering” bit is about letting go of past traumas and chasiing things like money or power or possessions, and being happy with your life in it’s current state.
I’m on a break from therapy for a while and I find meditation and journaling to be very helpful.
Write the sad thoughts to get them out of your head. Turn the page and write about a happy memory that is special to you. Write about the people in your life who are close to you and what you like about them.
I listen to podcasts that focus on good mental health and that also have a guided meditation at the end.
Low and slow is my advice too - but also IME there’s something magical that happens when you use creamy soups as a starter with your meats. I spent years trying to make something healthier than my mom’s roast beef recipe, which is basically cream of mushroom soup and onion soup mix plus a roast, but nothing I did could make it fall apart and stay moist like hers. I settled on using real onions in place of the onion soup mix which helps lower the salt content a bit but my family often asks me to just make it like my mom did.
There is a list of health related communities being pulled together at !health@lemmy.world. I know some people can’t go there right now but it’s a good resource for those who can.
My husband and I have decided to start our own book club this weekend. We are nerds and both enjoy reading but he has limited time and I have limited patience with it because I had a stroke a few years ago and it’s not as easy as it used to be for me. We’re starting with short stories and we’ll just read one at a time ad discuss when we’re done. I’m hoping it will improve my skills over time and I know we’ll enjoy the extra bonding. We’re reading A Knight of The Seven Kingdoms by George R R Martin. He’s read all of the ASOIAF books and I’ve not read any of them. We’ve both watched both of the related TV shows.