I think it probably makes more sense to simply post about the game in a general community! (i.e. this one). If there’s a lot of involvement, then you can consider splitting off.

As romcom misunderstandings go, at least the one in this episode didn’t feel too contrived.

I still hate it, though! :)

less painful,

I actually found laser way, waaaay more painful – and that was with more than half my hairs turned white already. Electro was just a bunch of tiny pokes, while laser felt like someone repeatedly punching me in the face.

That said, I’d still choose laser over electro if I could have, since it’s just easier/less hassle. (Quicker results, fewer treatments, my skin seemed to heal from it faster, etc).

Sadly at work force pushing just isn’t an option, so I’ve just learned to ignore my deadname. There’s apparently some way to use .mailmap to swap out the way your name/email displays, but github doesn’t respect it in any case. :|

I do mostly update old JIRA/Confluence references as I run into them. I also make a habit of referring to others by their @handle references, since that will update automatically if they ever change their name.

For me, what helped initially was not to focus on whether I was trans or not, but on specific questions like whether I wanted to start HRT.

Because when I read the list of changes it caused, none of them seemed bad, and many seemed really desirable!

That helped reduce my dilemma from a complicated question of “identity” (“Am I trans? Am I nonbinary?” etc), to a more specific choice I could proceed with.

That’s always been my take too.

A tip I got at some point was that if you feel smug/self-satisfied about posting something, it’s probably just better that you don’t. Trying to win internet points by owning bigots is not making the world better, and it certainly never made me happy either.

But you do want other, uninformed folks to be able to see how flawed the bigots arguments really are, and if you have the energy its worthwhile putting that out there.

For 5e there is https://open5e.com/, although that is under the OGL.

Didn’t WOTC end up releasing that under a creative commons license?

That doesn’t make it less open source, though.

It’s important to understand that those rules are now perpetually open and free to use/copy/modify. WotC truly relinquished any chance of trying to claw them back.

Slightly related: I was looking recently at early issues of Dragon magazine on archive.org, and #3 has a section on women. The title is “NOTES ON WOMEN & MAGIC – Bringing the Distaff Gamer into D & D”.

It proceeds roughly how you’d expect from the title.

Ironically, reddit has apparently blocked the r/anime bot. (Presumably related to all their api changes.)