Someone posted a link a while ago to an article called killing community. I believe it speaks what I’ve been thinking for a while. I’ve quit so many social media over such a long time but I’m also part of a small community of friends. We Have our own little corner of the internet with file sharing and things like password manager and chat server and so on. We’ve been going strong for 15 years and going. Growth at all costs destroys communities.

I don’t think I will ever forget my icq number

Defederation I believe is a really powerful tool. More so than it seems. It creates islands of a sort and you can be more or less assured that your interests are respected. If they’re not you move to an instance that federates with likeminded individuals. Makes it so much easier to isolate bad actors since they tend to group together. And then you disconnect from them and suddenly a whole avalanche of problems simply goes away. Moderation is obviously necessary but it is much more of a community effort. Keep in mind that most admins and mods are here because they want to use the forum just like you do. Your interests align much more than if a vc backed company Hosts your community with the singular goal of extracting as much value out of you as they can in whatever way available.

Yup, you can definitely extend this way past social media. Whatever it is, if it works for you, don’t let anyone tell you that it shouldn’t. It’s too easy to get swept up in opinions of the masses. I like quiet spaces. You hear much more there.

Hehe, the joys of troubleshooting and profiling. Isn’t it fun?

You got this. <3
I don’t have experience scaling Lemmy, but I do have experience scaling stuff in general. I’m sure you’ve got a few people here who’d be willing to talk things through with you if you get too frustrated.
And don’t forget to breathe and step back if you have to. Your well being is more important.

Hi from a kbin instance!

it warms my heart to see so many people slowly figuring this out. This is what the internet was meant to be all along.

Don’t forget us kbin users too! We’re all in the same boat now

Also don’t let media tell you that something is dead.
If people are using it, it’s not dead.
If you’re getting value out of it, it’s not dead.
Something doesn’t need to have half the world using it to not be dead.