Sorry for the stupid question, but what is Tildes?

A Psalm for the Wild-Built by Becky Chambers. There is a good sequel too called A Prayer for the Crown-Shy that came out last year.

I totally just saw the headline and missed your comment that included Becky Chambers. I’m still getting used to Lemmy/Beehaw. Sorry for the reading comprehension fail!

I went ahead and bought all of the Long Way series from my local bookstore. I broke down and bought the audio books from Apple for the monk and robot series. I’ll buy them in paperback too when I can get to the bookstore and order them.

That would be great! I’d love to try it out.

Ok. I’m new to lemmy. I cannot figure out how to subscribe to that community from here. I don’t need to create a new account right? I should be able to search for it and subscribe, but I can’t find it in the all community search.

Ah, thanks. I tried searching that and initially it didn’t work. I was searching g under communities but when I switched to “all” I was able to find it.

That was a really good read and it made a lot of things click for me regarding social media and my relationship with it. Thank you!

That’s always your choice. I think the consensus for the community is that we support the admins because Beehaw isn’t intended to replace Reddit or Twitter. We’re all here to have a more intimate community, like a local coffee shop where you know everyone. My experience has been that these kinds of intimate gatherings allow for more diversity, while maintaining a safer space. We can have respectful differences of opinion without worrying about the hostility that often follows disagreements online. Like a coffee shop, the desire for social cohesion has more of an influence than the desire to be right at all costs like on Twitter/Reddit. Just my two cents. I’m supportive of this, because I know if I ever have a concern I can talk to my friends (Beehaw team) about it. If we can’t agree, I can always find a new friend group and neither party will have hard feelings. I’d like to think it won’t come to that, because of the kind of community Beehaw is. This is exactly the same decision I would make if it were my call.

That’s not how I see it. This is nuanced. I don’t think all-or-nothing is a healthy approach either. This instance will federate by default to most instances until they provide a reason (as given in the OP) that continued federation is untenable. In the coffee shop vibe, everyone is welcome, but if a big, loud, and rowdy group shows up, and the coffee shop staff does t ask them to chill or leave if they are disruptive, the regulars are going to find another coffee shop (see the evaporative cooling post from Gaywallet). I think this is the behavior that this community/instance is expecting. Again, if folks don’t like it, they are welcome to spin their own instances. The more the merrier! However, this community is a safe space, and that will be maintained even if it’s inconvenient. Beehaw will never be in a position of growth-at-all costs like Reddit is going through right now. That’s how you turn your corner coffee shop into Starbucks.