crashspeeder
Amazing car. A friend of mine has a Chevy SS that he changed over the exterior to all Holden badges. Gorgeous inside and out. It’s a shame they never intended to sell or even market these because they’re awesome.
I’ve heard that if your car needs to run in the dyno with the hood open then the numbers you’re putting down are likely artificial (since that’s not how cars drive down the road). Make sure that shop isn’t just touting good numbers with the hood open. Hold them to the numbers you put out with the hood closed.
I don’t think it’s wrong to recreate a beloved community, and I think it makes sense to also populate it with content. I just think that posting a copy of Reddit is a problem, and automated posts too often are also not good. At that point you’re trying to force the community into existence rather than having it be organic. I think it’s okay to boost the community a bit, but not to try to make Lemmy the new Reddit.
I will say that Lemmy in general seems very Reddit-like, which is what causes people to try to make Lemmy the new Reddit, so I’m not surprised that people are just trying to migrate subreddits to communities here. I think Lemmy needs a bit more of an identity to avoid that.
My godmother’s oldest daughter had a very specific idea of what her wedding needed to be, and what it needed to cost (obviously, a lot). But she was also cheap. So I go for the tux fitting because she decided I’m going to be in the groom’s wedding party. The tux felt like it was made of cardboard, the pink pocket square and tie looked like a pretty pink that had been sun faded and looked TERRIBLE. The shoes were ugly and uncomfortable. His kids are also part of both wedding parties. His kids were little monsters, and she decided that the wedding parties were going to do a choreographed number courtesy of his oldest daughter.
If you want dancers, pay for dancers. Instead, she lost her shit because we “didn’t put enough effort in” to the half-assed, last minute dance. The food was meh, the ceremony was far too long and stodgy, and the bride and groom didn’t spend any time with anyone (thank god). They were divorced within two years. It went about as I expected.
On the other hand, my stepsister’s wedding was held outdoors in the summer heat. They had a gorgeous, 15 minute ceremony done by one of their friends who was witty and funny. After that, we all went inside out of the heat into the air conditioned hall and everyone hung out and had a great time. The couple mingled with everyone despite being very in demand. None of it looked expensive, but was all tasteful. The food was good and the DJ was awesome. They are, unfortunately, also divorced, but lasted much longer because they knew what they wanted, didn’t have pretense, and knew each other well.
That assumption is predicated on law enforcement being willing to publish statistics on their actions. You can’t have this work without that. Considering how often SWAT teams are unnecessarily used and the military tactics they employ, the results will be unflattering to police departments.
Of course they don’t want their time wasted, but they won’t trade transparency and accountability for it.
I’ve also been curious about it. Enjoying Lemmy and Kbin, but wouldn’t mind the ability to interact on Tildes, if somebody has an invite.
Forgive me, but I’m going to give you a “non-answer”. The reason is that depression is very personal, and you should probably only get advice on your specific situation by a licensed therapist. Even a licensed therapist isn’t good enough for some people, and they’ll need to find the right therapist, and even then they may require medication.
With that out of the way, I’ll tell you that you probably need to forgive yourself a bit more than you currently do. If you’re high strung, rigid, and tend to be harsh with yourself for failure (which only makes depression worse, especially when you end up feeling down while beating yourself up over it), then the only way to break that cycle is to be genuinely forgiving with yourself. What some people have said is pretend it’s not you in the situation, but a friend. What advice would you give that person?
A very smart man I know once told me that we tend to judge others based on their actions and outcomes, and ourselves based on our intentions. That means that if we didn’t mean to hurt somebody then we can be a bit more dismissive than if somebody hurt us but didn’t mean it. That said, it can also cut the other way. If you intended to succeed at something but didn’t, you can beat yourself up over it. Nobody around you would be any the wiser about your shortcomings or failures, but you might be likely to draw attention to it and judge yourself harshly based on your (lack of) results.
I probably wrote this mostly for myself and my situation, but hopefully it helps you a bit. There’s no plan for life. We just all do the best we can with the hand we’re dealt in the situation we happen to be in at the time. Hell, most of people’s success comes down to luck, not hard work. To make things worse, neither success nor money will make you more happy with yourself. They may help, but they won’t do it on their own.
