good_girl [she/her, they/them]
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Reading through that it’s wild how quickly Ada goes to bat against hexbear but staunchly defends actual wreckers like mindtraveler who doesn’t even post on blahaj outside of the drama surrounding them.
Hexbear is very inclusive to trans people that align with its ideology, but it actively allows harassment and “dunking” of anyone, including trans people, who don’t align with its ideology. In my opinion, it’s hard to be the most inclusive trans instance when you are only inclusive of some trans people, and are willing to harass the rest
Hexbear is incredibly protective of trans folk that share its views, but it green lights active harassment of trans folk not in that group.
An instance that is ok with harassment of some trans folk isn’t as protective as you’re claiming.
Rather than just banning trans folk who don’t align with their politics, or targeting their political ideas, Hexbear actively enables dogpiling and harassing of individual trans folk
That’s not the behaviour of “the most trans positive instance”, especially given that Hexbears political ideology is fringe at best, making the majority of trans people valid targets for its harassment.
Don’t get me wrong. Hexbear is incredibly supportive of its trans folk. It’s why I tried to make federation with them work for so long. But it’s only supportive of its own trans folk. If you don’t align with their political stance, you get harassment, not support.
She keeps bringing up the dunk tank but it reads like she’s actually just making things up at this point. The dunk tank explicitly has a rule now to not target small users with low engagement. And a rule to not specifically target other instance admins and mods.
Hell, looking through the first ten pages of the top posts in the last year
The posts involving lemmy users that aren’t explicitly disagreeing with our politics are:
10 anti-hexbear posters
2 posts saying ukranians dying is a good thing actually
1 both sides argument about nazis
1 person saying poor people can’t be on the internet
1 post about .world defedding with lemmygrad
1 post about misinformation regarding north/south korea
1 pseudo intellectual nerd crying about emojis
1 example of ableism from 196 mods
1 person disagreeing with a lemmy dev’s politics on a community dedicated to harassing lemmygrad posters.
1 loser coming up with their own definition of socialism
1 temporarily embarrassed millionaire saying bees don’t make money actually
of these there are 3 people who may be trans/from blahaj. Those three are someone who is anti-hexbear, someone who is anti-hexbear and thinks we don’t actually have trans users, and the 196 mod directing ableism towards one of our admins.
the posts that are explicitly lemmy posters disagreeing with our politics are:
1 pro nato poster
1 person crying about communists
1 person crying after being told to post hog
1 person just being anti-hexbear again but with politics
and 1 trans no steppy snake flag
Of these 5, only 1 is from a trans user/blahaj.
seeing ada react like this only strengthens my resolve to leave that place.
how am i supposed to girlbuy new girlclothes if i keep having to girlpay girlbills
blahaj drama going stupid rn
I’m out tho, I can’t do stupid Internet drama anymore so i left with a deez nuts joke
long live hexbear
doomer
Okay I’m ordering DIY powder to stock up, I dont think things are looking good.
Also gotta back up sites relevant to it.
Fr even Nevada explored the idea in the second part. I won’t spoil exactly how it goes down but the book even acknowledges that the “dangers” of pushing the idea someone might be trans are overblown. It’s not like there’s a point of no return, you don’t have to commit to keep taking HRT, detransitioning is always an option (even though a vast majority of detransitioners do so for reasons OTHER THAN A FALSE DIAGNOSIS).
There’s nowhere near this amount of pushback for other queer identities. It’s mainstream for “maybe you’re gay/bi/lesbian” to be a punchline. If one were to make the same joke but with transness it would not fly even with supposed allies. It’s so goddamn stupid.
