jerryjigglemeyer
That’s kind of what I meant. Didn’t articulate it well enough. I see it as like a “hey, because my partner is doing this for me, I WANT to do this for them.” Reciprocation of effort. Not necessarily just finances. I’ve been in situations where I felt like I was putting in more effort and it wasn’t being reciprocated. So I was wondering if it was fair to expect equal reciprocation in a relationship where both people are able to contribute the same things
It’s interesting how much you assumed of my intentions based on me asking an honest question.
I asked because I had a conversation about this with someone I was saw as a dating potential. We both went to the same school, took the same classes, and make around the same salary-wise. She asked why I haven’t dated her yet and it was because she has expectations of a relationship that didn’t align with mine.
As a black dude, that’s a huge red flag. It’s weird af