oktherebuddy [he/him]
made out of meat
From meeting a lot of these people and being one when I was younger (I was a CS major and work in software) I do think the main reason is just really poor social skills.
Like everything else socialization is a skill that can be learned, even later in life, and like all skills the important thing is that you get a lot of exposure & practice (not online). Unfortunately there’s a feedback loop where if you’re bad at it people will want to socialize with you less and you’ll get less practice. Transcending this loop is one of the great challenges of growing up.
For me I managed to get out of it by making female friends. Women for whatever reason have much more advanced social skills than men at most ages in our society, and are much more accepting of people without highly developed social skills as friends. Women also tend to organize many more social events & hangouts than men. Here’s the thing though, women can also detect any secret horniness behind your actions like a shark can smell blood in water from a mile away. You are 100% not being subtle no matter how much you think you are. So if you as a hetero man want to make female friends you have to, from the very start, make a deal with yourself to never ever sexualize them in your mind. Dispel all such thoughts of this type. Incidentally this is a useful skill in itself, as the :reddit-logo: style “just sexualize everything, it’s natural and everybody does it” attitude is so fucking off-putting to almost all adults of any gender. So it’s important to realize you can actually control, in your mind, whether you sexualize someone, and make the choice not to do that when you’re friends with them. This is not to say these thoughts never occur, everybody has intrusive thoughts about everything even truly unhinged things, but it’s a conscious choice whether you want to take that thought and run with it when it happens.
So basically after a few years of just hanging out with women using this method my social skills had developed enough through sheer quantity of training data that I could take flight and make other friends myself, plus of course the friends I had while I was learning were real friends, and this is also coincidentally around the time women started finding me attractive in a more-than-friends way.
You have to understand this question isn’t about the actual question. 90% of a debate is won by who gets to frame the issue. The other 10% is just tactical wrangling within whatever narrow frame was established, heavily favoring whoever chose the frame. This question is about framing the issue. Just don’t accept it. Don’t accept the framing. Don’t even waste a minute responding to it in any way whatsoever.
I know it’s lib shit to get people to point out things on maps but what percentage of people who are concerned about Xinjiang know that it shares a fucking border with Afghanistan, and have considered whether these issues are connected in any way
this game hits hard as fuck if you’re going through a lonely period of your life. the characters will throw a birthday party for you in-game on your irl birthday, I did not expect this and got a real boost from it
didn’t she respond to this saying “this is the most antisemitic thing I’ve ever seen” or something lmao
This is a government that exists within bourgeois capitalist democracy, aka a government run by the capitalists. Specifically since it’s a municipal government it’s run by real estate developers. Thinking that electing someone with specific beliefs will alter the forces shaping the trajectory of that government is, itself, brainworms.
Doctor/engineer/lawyer types, especially if they’re DINKs, can easily reach $10 million lifetime wealth in the US just from wages. Although I’ll grant you they usually start investing in various businesses & real estate at some point (what else is there to spend money on?) and thus become capitalists.
