What is one thing that you want to ask your significant other to do but you won’t because you are pretty confident they will say no?

My top one is for her to play with my ass. Finger and rim specifically.

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I like oral with some guys but not others - my ex had huge loads and so foul, he was the first one I’d tried that with and I honestly had no idea how anyone could swallow without puking. I didn’t know at that time that guys differed in this regard, so even watching porn where the ladies swallow made me nauseous!

But since him, I’ve had no trouble with most other guys. So if you are like my ex, there may be a reason she is squeamish.

Anal, there are only a few times I’m up for that too, it doesn’t feel great (not bad! Just not great) but that’s not the issue, it’s just that the request has to line up with what I think is going on down there, are there not a lot of times you would say no? Maybe give her a heads up that you’d like to soon, so she can feel more ready and let you know when it’s a good time for it.

If the problem is more that she isn’t very giving, I don’t know what to tell you except that it’s easy to get in that mindset when young because guys get off so easy it’s easy to think they don’t need much so why open a door that will lead to more stuff we don’t like and less of what we do, instead of just more sex overall. Especially with my ex, he could only cum a couple times a week and I ran hotter, so if we did something that was only for him I’d be frustrated. I don’t know if this is helpful just trying to give you some ideas of how she may be thinking, perhaps incorrectly, so you can counter those misconceptions.

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That is very helpful commentary. Males are always trying to figure out how females think and never doing a good of it.

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