You know what?
I’m sorry I came at you with such hostility.
I’ve done polyamory for a long time and “it’s just a fetish” and “it doesn’t work” hit a nerve. I’m glad other people made more patient, effective, comments.
Thanks. I shouldn’t have called it a fetish but after being told otherwise, I didn’t want to be the kind of person to edit their comments to make themselves look better. I still do think that polyamory doesn’t work for the vast majority of people (which seems to be a popular opinion even with the polyamorous) but I’m not an outspoken critic or anything.
I WOULD still discourage my friends from trying it because…I know them very, very well. They’d be the “transitional” polyamory couples spoken about elsewhere in this post. But if they went for it, I wouldn’t look down on them for it. I never said anything negative to the two that have already tried and failed, either.