Expecting you to treat people with basic respect is not policing your words. Do you go around calling black people the negroes? I hope not. Is it because you think that’s extremely disrespectful? I hope so.
It doesn’t take much effort to spot black people. I know how to treat them with respect because that’s easy. Again, I’m just lazy a little spiteful. Sorry not sorry.
It’s really not the big effort you seem to think it is. If someone looks like a man to you, you refer to them with masculine pronouns and if they correct you, you apologize and go with the pronouns they prefer.
The point is that you don’t keep doing it when they tell you that you’re using the wrong pronouns.
meanwhile, i’ll be over here not caring what pronoun you use for me. see how easy that is?