Important clarification/FAQ

I am not calling to coddle or excuse the behavior of bigoted men in any way!

I am calling to be kind and understanding to young men (often ages 10-20) who are very manipulable and succeptible to the massive anti feminist propaganda machine. Hope this clarifies that very important distinction. :)

Very good comments that express key points:

Edit: This post has now been removed and restored twice. I want to encourage you all:

Be decent to one another

I think this post is a valuable thing given the current state of the Fediverse, please don’t fuck it up for us by being toxic in the comments.

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Which is why the important lesson from the bear meme is that a whole lot of women are incredibly stupid.

Woah woah woah, hold the fuck on for two fucking seconds.

First of all, as I said before, this shit goes both ways. Men do this too.

Secondly, I did NOT say that using our perceptions is a bad way to make decisions. Multiple experienced incidents and multiple stories can create a perception of danger, and that perception may be wrong at times, but it can also be dead on at critical moments. It is a survival tactic that serves people well in general.

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Ah, sorry, I took it for granted that we were on the same page about it being irrational. Taking the worst experience you’ve ever had, and expecting it to happen all the time, is a trauma response. It’s understandable, but it is in no way reasonable. I wish we could acknowledge that without women claiming we’re dismissing their lived experiences.

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It’s a bit more complicated than simply taking the worst experiences someone has ever had.

Every experience, every story from friends, every story in the news, heck even portrayals in fiction, contribute to someone’s perception of an event, object, person or even group.

Now place yourself in the position of your average woman. You hear rape stories on the news, probably known a few people that have been SA’d if it hasn’t happened to you personally, and you’ve almost certainly had a few close calls at least. Are you telling me you wouldn’t have your guard up?

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