Hold on. Apologies for being out of the loop, but do people really bring sexual fetish stuff to a pride parade?
And if so, what does that have to do with LGBTQ+?
Imho there are two angles to this question:
- First, queer folks are more likely to be kinky. Since they had to figure out what clicks for them at least once, they tend to do it on multiple aspects of their identities.
- Secondly - and this one is more of a personal standpoint - I’d argue that kinks fall under the wider umbrella of queerness or GRSM (Gender Relational and Sexual Minorities which I find way better than an enumeration acronym).
I’d also advocate for including neurodivergences under the queer brand too for instance.
Also don’t forget the historic aspect – when queerness was viewed as sexually deviant and perverted, it was the kink community that stood by us. Just because we’ve evolved to be socially acceptable doesn’t mean we should leave everyone else behind
What kind of a “community” exists around kink? Or do you just mean the superset of communities like furries, and whatever else is out there? What’s the line between those and more problematic sex clubs?
Thanks for the answer. Although, I still don’t really get it.
I’ve heard that the kink community has a rule that people shouldn’t expose their fetishes to non-consenting strangers. Why on pride parades then? Isn’t engaging in these sort of activities here kind of wrong, like how you can’t just go out nude or have sex in public?
It really depends on where you are and what sort of Pride event it is. If it’s a Pride march with lots of corporate sponsors, then you’ll see very little kink, maybe someone in full rubber, but probably no jockstraps. If it’s a ticketed gay village party, or a circuit party, you’ll definitely see some more risque kink gear being worn. If you’re at Folsom or in Berlin, there’s whole parades dedicated to kink, but even the straight public know about that, so if they don’t like it, they can avoid the area during those events.
This is my personal opinion and it might not reflect the wider community’s. I’m not even giving a straight answer, just some points to think about ^^
First and foremost Pride isn’t a singular event. Some are more celebratory and family friendly. But imho it’s original purpose is a protest and protests aren’t subject to the same rules as other places and times. e.g. you don’t tend to shout in the street everyday.
Secondly this rule as an absolute doesn’t make a lot of sense. Even without critiquing the wider society’s rules a choker isn’t the same as a full puppy outfit. (and tbf I don’t see the issue with pups, it’s just dress up ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)
Lastly, I personally find that view kinda rooted in puritanism. Why should it be shameful in the first place? It kinda has “don’t ask don’t tell” vibes.
Lastly, how do you precisely define what’s a kink and what’s not?
I recommended this to someone else in the thread too, but I found Kat Blaque’s video really helpful as an explanation, because if you’re not familiar with the subculture the reasoning can be quite confusing.
including neurodivergences under the queer brand too for instance.
Think you should ask them first, but no one ever asks the autistic anything
I’ve yet to see a Pride event that didn’t have it, even in relatively conservative cities like Houston.
And if so, what does that have to do with LGBTQ+?
What does dressing up as an Astronaut have to do with All Hallow’s Eve? It’s a big party and people are expressing themselves. You don’t have to take it farther than that.
