• Whomever is in charge is probably the biggest jerk here.

I find that when I get to new social settings and am trying to figure out each individual and group dynamics, a good shortcut is to find out who is in charge. That person is usually deceptive, controlling, and a bit manipulative. Otherwise, they wouldn’t have reached their position. Of course, this is a trend, not am absolute fact. There are social situations and organizations that I have been in where the person in charge isn’t a jerk. However, those places tend to be unique and smaller in size.