The little eye is where the string goes. The wings are down during insertion and then released inside the uterus. The only part a phallus should ever touch is the string. There are also a variety of IUDs now and none of them look like the solid metal monstrosity in the picture. They are mostly plastic.
Edit: I guess I should mention as someone who has one that they are not exactly fun to get inserted. Most doctors donāt numb you or give you anything to soften the cervix. Take some ibuprofen and suck it up. However, I would never go back to other forms of birth control. No periods. No remembering to take a pill. No crying in the fetal position in a pool of blood and pain. No more hormone induced mania. The list goes onā¦
I donāt exactly want to describe what I was picturing, but itās a relief that only the string is exposed. I didnāt attempt to reach all the way there, but a few times I got carried away so I just yeah. Looked like a good way to teach me a quick lesson
Trying not to read too far into your comment, but this may be relevant or at least useful information.
Beware of ābumpingā the cervix too hard. If she gets cramps or pain afterwards, find a different position. If you donāt know, ask. Also check if the cervix is retroverted (tipped), which brings the strings a lot closer to the vaginal opening and can also explain why you may need a different position. I had to have my strings shortened due to this. You can also request to have your strings shortened later if they are causing problems.
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23426-retroverted-uterus
I mean Iām fine, read too much into it. It was my ex, the literal only person Iāve been with, and it was pretty much just the one position always since highschool (so I have a lot to learn missing out on 16 years of that).
She did have the retroverted thing so that may be why it was so easy to bump it. I mean Iām not like freakishly huge. I think. Actually now that Iām thinking about it, thereās a fuck load I donāt know and its really sort of causing me to freak out a bit.
