I’m not sure I should start this conversation and I’ve been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists
Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)
Now my brain is fried
I’m thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can’t imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.
I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that’s beyond the point) guy, I’m trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can’t remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.
there are plenty of thoughts you can have about women that are problematic.
yeah, but a dude worrying about potentially being a creep and than some other guy coming along and being like “there is no way to think about a women and be a creep” just rubs me the wrong way.
I’m sorry. I interpreted the OP as being pretty much completely benign, the typical overthinking you do when falling in love as a lonely person. If he does have thoughts that would push him to cross boundaries and make her uncomfortable or unsafe then that is a problem, I just didn’t see anything that pointed in that direction.
