Personal background: I strongly feel just about everyone grows up and has something shitty about them. I know growing up I definitely thought and said some less-than-ideal jokes about women, minorities, etc. And while some of that was the proverbial ā€˜the timesā€™, and some was growing up in a sheltered hyper Christian southern American conservative situation, I regret my actions and am happy I grew past that. And I do think people, especially younger, can grow past their shittiness, especially with the help of others, which was true for me tooā€¦ When I got my first W2 job a superior I looked up to helped mold me into a better person by calling me out on things and modeling a better behavior.

Current situation: Iā€™m now the supervisor position, have been for a decade (retail is a trap) and Iā€™ve taken that to heart, calling out jokes that arenā€™t funny, etc. But recently we hired a new kid who acts really incel-ish, and who apparently has attached himself to me instantly. Iā€™ve had moderate success so far just telling him his ā€˜lol women dumbā€™ jokes arenā€™t funny, and modeling how working with women isā€¦ normal? Anyways, I donā€™t wanna screw this up so do yā€™all have any suggestions for me to help keep him from going down an unfortunate path? I know at the end of the day Iā€™m not responsible for othersā€™ routes in life, but I feel we should all do our parts.

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Wow now Iā€™m apparently sexist for disagreeing with you. Maybe you should have the decency to contemplate why anyone claiming to be female online must be automatically right. Thatā€™s pretty sexist to tie truth to gender. You know literally nothing about me, so donā€™t draw any conclusions.

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Maybe you should have the decency to contemplate why anyone claiming to be female online must be automatically right. Thatā€™s pretty sexist to tie truth to gender. You know literally nothing about me, so donā€™t draw any conclusions.

what the fuck are you talking about

you said a dumb thing online and people are calling you out on it

thereā€™s nothing more to it than that

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Saying someone should talk to someone isnā€™t dumb shit. The amount of mental gymnastics here is astounding.

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my sweet baby boyo please stop doing backflips to try and frame this as if youā€™re the normal one just to protect your ego

think of somebody in your life that you wouldnā€™t want to have an extended conversation with

thereā€™s obviously somebody, because everybody has somebody

now imagine if a third party advised that somebody to deliberately try to have a painfully extended conversation with you

would you be happy with that third party?

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