I just noticed that
- people don’t read my comments as much here as on Lemmy so I get way fewer replies
- someone replied to me and I didn’t see it in my notifications, even after tapping Notifications, so I had to go to the thread where he replied to me, check out all my 10+ comments, and see that one of them had a reply. I saw no other way to find this.
I have had reply notifications off on reddit due to the pedantic, combative, “talk at you” atmosphere that metastisized over the years - so I was pleasantly surprised.
IMO - the first thing you should do with new software or services is go over the settings because the defaults are likely not for your benefit.
Opt-in philosophy > opt-out. You want it? You enable it.
what is this “talk at you” atmosphere?
and i know that you should check the settings but i’m just a bit dumb and, while i know it, i don’t always do it, because i forget :) but yeah i’ve always known that’s best practice.
Checking that the settings aren’t going to own your firstborn is a should task, but I’m lazy too. :D
“talk at you” atmosphere
There’s probably already a common term for this, but I use that terminology.
“Talking at you” instead of “talking to you” is where a responding comment isn’t necessarily off topic, but it’s also not directed at you. “Talk at you” style commenting is purposed to leverage what you’ve said for pushing an agenda, or as a writing prompt - often due to where your comment is positioned. Any response which doesn’t coincide with the user’s agenda doesn’t receive any sort of organic response.
It seemed that “talking at you” grew to be the general mode of conversation on reddit as it grew too big. Organic conversations rarely occur because people end up just shouting their opinion into the void, competing for visibility by hanging their agenda on the most visible and tangentially relevant comment in a thread, or just plain shitposting the same dumb thing that is likely to generate imaginary internet points.
Hope that makes sense. heh