lemm.ee

11 points

1 year ago

I remember this with math when I was young. Show my work? “I looked at the problem and realized that this was the answer.”

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snooggums@kbin.social

7 points

1 year ago

They want you to show how you kow it was the answer so when you get to more complicated stuff you won’t struggle when it isn’t instantly obvious.

I didn’t really understand that is what they wanted until calculus where a lot of students struggled with applying simple concepts to complex equations.

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Tayb@lemmy.world

3 points

1 year ago

Right. Basic 2+2 stuff or simple solve for x is easy, but then you start deriving and integrating, working on sets with linear algebra, or going beyond simple calculus to apply it to physics, biology, and chemistry. I was at the point where even some calculus I could do in my head, but when I took quantum I had to write each step down.

Plus, if you don’t get the right answer, if you show your work the professor can show you where you went wrong so you can improve. I had a math teacher explain that in high school, and it was enough for me to take the 30 seconds to jot down the steps.

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Buddahriffic@lemmy.world

2 points

1 year ago

Even for the simpler stuff, it helps with the teaching process to be able to hone in on where the specific misunderstanding is. Or if mistakes are being made, slowing down a bit to correct the process can help.

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2 points

1 year ago

Right?? 🤦‍♀️😂

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6 points

1 year ago

I also had a high school biology teacher call me out in lecture hall for not taking notes. And then after the test was graded, calling me to a meeting after class and personally apologizing to me, sincerely, with, “I didn’t realize you had a photographic memory.”

I am only now realizing that since she called me out publicly, she should have apologized publicly, but that’s almost 40 years ago, so nothing I can do about it now.

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3 points

1 year ago

Shit, I had such a similar experience… It’s so depressing how over the years (it was almost 30 for me, and from op I assume still now) things haven’t changed for us much…

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3 points

1 year ago

I’m 53 years old. I have three kids, two of them are officially diagnosed on the ASD spectrum, have been for some time. And I have just started to realize in the past year that I’m on the spectrum, too (though not diagnosed, and I’m not clear on how useful it would be for me to go through that process).

So kind of all the time, I’m remembering things from my past, at all ages, and going, “Ohhhh …”

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3 points

1 year ago

Oh, and just to touch on the diagnosis part, it’s definitely a hassle, and it didn’t get me much autism specific support per se (mostly because there isn’t any available), but just knowing has made a huge difference in my understanding of myself (back to the ohhh realisations and understanding just how much about me isn’t “wrong” juts “autistic” which is perfectly normal for me), and it does help to be able to tell support and other health workers, some might not have a clue what it means, but some will be able to understand and support much better.

Also self diagnosis is completely valid despite what some might say, it’s hard to access care, and even if you do, it’s hard to get a diagnosis (I had a real struggle, as do many, especially women). If you feel that the diagnosis applies to you, and especially being a parent to autistic kids you’d know a lot about it, I wouldn’t hesitate to claim it.

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3 points

1 year ago

When the goal is to have a better understanding of myself, if looking at myself through the lens of autism is useful, even without a clinical diagnosis, I have no problem doing that. Between that, and Zoloft, and simply being older, I’m a lot more “okayer” with myself than I was even two or three years ago.

The “older” part is important. While I still wish I had the kind of interpersonal relationships that I see other people having, I’ve come to terms with the fact that we don’t always get what we wish for, that being somewhat isolated and internalized is my lot. I can either do something about it, or be okay with it, or some combination of the two - but being disappointed in it (and in myself by extension) isn’t doing anyone any good. Not me, not my family, not the tiny handful of friends I do have.

Is there a difference between embracing who you are and giving up on who you want to be? Does it matter if there is?

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3 points

1 year ago

Been diagnosed for about 10 years at this point and still doing that "ohhhh" constantly (as my op reply demonstrates lol)
It really is incredible to realise how much of ourselves we have to suppress or ignore or change just to fit in with NT expectations and rules.

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snooggums@kbin.social

2 points

1 year ago

Same, and for those of us that were able to learn to cope it really seems like most of the symptoms are just being direct and clear instead of following social norms just because everyone else was.

Like I understand social cues, but also think many of them are stupid and confusing and see everyone else misunderstand them constantly but think they are great at it. Apparently just faking it is the norm, and when I see someone who is autistic struggle with vague ‘non-verbal cues’ I really feel for them because of how often I am misread. Like I’m crossing my arms because my shoulders hurt or I am chilly, not because I am mad.

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