This is not true. Soldiers not following orders and refusing to fight is very effective for stopping a war. This is how protests work - power to the people. It is people like you that are brainwashed to push the narrative that there is only winning or losing. Do you really think the investors in the military industry expect Ukraine to win? Or even care if they do? They get a nice ROI for every war - won or lost. You are their tool! If you really care about the war and are a real warrior (as opposed to a soldier - a functionary) you would be at the frontline throwing yourself into the fire and not on the web circlejerking around the death of others.