Ive seen this term a few times, but never an explanation. As a person that (mostly) associates themselves with being Bi, ive never experienced any sort of “cycle”. Its it just an internet injoke (cause it sounds like bicycle).
Why do you hate it? And I dont understand why some people apparently seem to alternate between what they like?
It’s just super annoying. I used to be nearly gay nowI have a slight preference for girls, still like guys tho
Excuse my ignorance but what makes it annoying? And why is it bad that you now have a slight preference for girls?
(I assume you’re an expert on this subject judging by your username, or you just like riding bicycles)
Not the person you’re responding to, but I’m also bi and experience the bi-cycle.
For me it used to annoy me because any person likes at least some consistency in their life. Especially when I was younger as so many things seemed uncertain then, that don’t in the same way now. My sexuality also played on my mind more then as I was figuring out who I was, but the bicycle made that difficult, especially because you hear the narrative of bi not being real.
At some point I just figured… This is my consistency. That things change. People change over time anyway, regardless of sexual orientation. So I just lean into it now.
Personally (m), one reason I used to hate it was because it made me feel uncertain about my sexuality. I used to think something along the lines of am I really into guys, or do I just want to be into them for some reason?. But the biggest thing that bothered me was worrying I was being unauthentic with others. I already felt like I was being inauthentic (implicitly lying to since small degree) to straight people. Once I came out as bi, and I felt more strongly attracted to women for a day or two, I started feeling like I was lying to my gay friends, too.
It no longer bothers me. Probably because I’ve been in a relationship with a guy, or because I’m used to it, or because I just care less about what others would think about how I identify. Or maybe even because I’ve met more bi folks.
