Hey folks! I hope you all are safe and doing well.
First things first, I realize HSP (highly sensitive personality) is not in the neurodivergence spectrum, but I don’t think there is a more suitable community for this. After a bit over a year of therapy, I have finally been identified as a person with hyper sensitive personality. In a sense, I’m relieved that I finally have a “label” for it and am now able to pick the correct tools from my toolbox to deal with some of my emotional issues.
In any case, I am writing here for those of you who identify yourselves or have otherwise been diagnosed as a HSP - what are your self-care routines/tools? For me it has always been essential to spend a few hours in the dark with no stimuli, listen to music that is usually a bit more complex technically, read poetry, experience art or other awe-inspiring scenes.
I would also like to know what your hobbies are. Do they take advantage of this trait of your personality?
Meditation is a must, I’d say. To cope with the constant sensory stimulation one needs to stay connected to one’s internal signs and impulses. It also helps to learn to observe things without further analysis or reaction. I’d recommend looking into stoicism. I paint, write music and do all sorts of creative things, which clearly go hand in hand with an elevated sense of sensitivity. I definitely see it as a gift rather than a disability at this point in my life.
Thanks for your comment! I’ve always tried to engage in self-reflective exercises even before starting therapy. I’ve always been an introspective person. While I’ve never really delved too deeply into meditation, I’ve looked into stoicism quite a bit. In fact, I have exchanged a few emails with professor Massimo Pigliucci, which was very, very helpful!
Unfortunately, my creative side has always been shut down by my parents as I was growing up. Whenever I showed interest in poetry, piano and so on they were discarded as “non-productive” hobbies. I eventually found other ways to let my creativity flow in ways that were deemed more acceptable. Now in my 30’s I’m slowly getting back into writing poetry and music. I’m no longer suppressing my sensitivity side and it feels great.
I’m glad to read you’ve found some help and that you’ve found your non-productive hobbies again! The key in my opinion is to learn self-compassion and to expand your window of tolerance. When you’re in a curious, open mindset, things don’t feel overwhelming. It takes practice to get there, so be kind to yourself. But it does pay off to get out there and practice actively looking and listening without forming opinions or reacting otherwise. Maybe first just in small doses. In your case some bodywork might also be helpful: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oLBfCzvYS2I
