it’s not an on-off switch, and you would be surprised at the amount of people who pick up on ‘queer’ vibes before you yourself have picked up on it harass you accordingly
I think you have to be careful here - you have experienced neither but you have opinions on the lived experiences of the very people you are talking about, based on intuition. Not to come across as too toxic, but perhaps take a note from your username’s namesake and ask if you have investigated a problem, and whether therefore it is something you should be speculating so much on