Iâve heard it explained that âheyâ used to be more of an urgent way to get someoneâs attention, rather than a casual âhelloâ like it is now, so it sounded rude to some older folks.
Well one would expect it at a five star restaurant, but not your local dive. So⌠kinda�
I thought it was every day life politeness, but I am not native. I would rather expect âthe pleasure is all mine, sirâ at a 3 Michelin stars restaurant.
To me âyou are welcomeâ comes off as taking credit for something minor and expected. No problem does the opposite. I prefer when people say no problem generally over youâre welcome. And thatâs why itâs become more common in a day in age where people are expected to be less servile.
When you say âyouâre welcomeâ, you are granting welcome to someone. Youâre bequeathing them a permission. You can only bequeath shit to people youâre better than. If someoneâs welcome because theyâre your equal or better, then they donât need you to tell them.
It seems weird to me to derive that from what I was taught to be the standard expression to answer back to âthank youâ. It didnât seem to carry more meaning than vocalizing your acknowledgement of the given thanks.