If you can’t get sex from being a cool person and you have to pay for it, that’s sad. If you’re addicted to sex and pay for it because you need sex is even sadder.
People who pay for sex are not universally “not cool people” who can’t get it other ways. In my work with various at risk populations, from what I hear from sex workers, plenty of people pay for sex. Funny charismatic, rich, doesn’t matter, they’re just as likely to be Johns.
Well, traditionally, someone has to like you before they decide they want to fuck you