I read The Ethical Slut and liked it as an introduction, but really did not connect in any meaningful way. I am happy that introduced me to the idea of check-ins tho.

I am not a huge book reader (I prefer zines, if you have any recommendations pls send them to me <3), but the other polyam/non-monogamy book i read was Polysecure and that felt way more relevant to me. I learned a bunch about attachment stuff and got helpful questions/exercises to reflect and learn.