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Here’s the context. I’m closeted and trying to help my sister not become a conservative nutcase. She’s in a church school so I have to act fast while I still have time. Thank you for the advice tho

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Explain it as “People love each other. Sometimes it’s a boyand a girl. Sometimes it’s two boys or two girls. (Not getting into enbys since this is 101.). And sometimes people, whoever they love, want to build a life together.”

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Sounds good. Sadly telling her directly is a risk as I probably will be outed. Is there another way I can do it?

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You run the risk of being ostracized by a conservative social group if you share any opinion that contradicts the teachings of the church school. I’m straight, but the hicks I went to high school with shouted every homophobic slur they knew at me anyway, because my opinions sounded “gay” to them.

That being said, you could tell her that the church has held opinions in the past, which they decided to change when we learned more about the world. The church persecuted Galileo for suggesting that the Earth revolves around the Sun. They called Leonardo da Vinci a necromancer for studying human anatomy. And 98 years ago, Christians wanted to hang John Scopes for teaching evolution in Tennessee.

Basically, if you can’t tell her directly, you can at least suggest that the church is not infallible when it comes to certain topics. Again though, people will consider you subversive even if all you’re doing is relaying pure, historical facts. There’s no safe way to contradict a zealot.

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I’d suggest phrasing the question differently. You don’t want to explain queerness to a 5-year-old. You want to figure out how to salt the earth of the fields of bigotry in her heart so nothing can grow. And I’m so sorry I have no answer for that.

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Just be careful because she might tell your family about what you talked about. Not out of maliciousness just curiousity.

And the religious crowd loves to hate gays for talking to kids about it because they consider it to be “grooming” or whatever. Funny there is a sub on r*ddit called arethestraightsokay that pointed out how hypocritical straight people/parents are. With the weird clothing for babies/kids with some damn near outright sexual writing on them.

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Yeah, I heard of that sub and her telling has happened when I was testing her critical thinking

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maybe watch cartoons and stuff with normalised lgbt relationships ?

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That was my idea I just don’t know any that are ok for young kids

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The Owl House should be good for all ages

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I personally know Gravity Falls (smaller representation) and The Owl House (in your face representation) to be good. They’re aimed at kids a bit above her age, so you might want to wait 1-3 years to show her them.

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The Bravest Knight on Hulu. The focal character is the daughter of two men, who both appear regularly.

Edit: Also “Ridley Jones” on Netflix. It’s an Indiana Jones kind of thing. The two gay fathers of one of the side characters feature a lot less, so you could cherry pick some episodes.

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