For swapping to make sense both the husband and wife have to have the same level of desire for sex. The wife definitely has to be orgasmic. And then it becomes just a hobby of wanting a bit of variety of who you fuck. You really have to have the mind set that you are happy in your marriage but sex with others is purely an erotic physical thing.
Sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too but 🤷
Find someone you like to fuck and you don’t have to worry about dumb shit like this.
lol
if “don’t be selfish, find someone you love to fuck” is “yukking a yum” y’all are in way too fucking deep.
get your head out of your ass.