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Never, ever, ever, ever, put Rick and Morty in your bio. I legitimately think you’d have better success putting your preferred porn categories. I like Rick and Morty, I live with my girlfriend, and I still don’t watch it around her. There are very few popular things that actively repulse women as much as that show.
In the realm of more useful advice, Tinder bios are worthless, your pictures do all the work. Hinge, OKCupid, and Bumble will be a little better for profiles. Depending on the games you like maybe focus on board games or something a little more expressive than Fortnite and Minecraft. Books are great, put something you’re actively/recently read, put your favorite and ask for suggestions. It seems you’re metal adjacent in music tastes so maybe put some more general metal to hook other metal heads but not scare off everyone else
Finally, pick something goofy or weird to stick out with. I am great at tetris so I put that I have a standing offer to buy drinks for anyone who can beat me. Nobody will ever actually take you up on it but it gives you a way to stand out while also showcasing your interests
Feel free to post your profile for critique. Making good dating profiles is hard and getting unbiased internet opinions is harsh, but helpful
I dont think you and your partner can speak for all women. My partner and watch it together and we both like it. It may repulse certain women, but definitely not all women.
That said, i kinda agree that it should be left out of the bio, its too specific, and putting it in a bio comes off as someone who harasses mcdonalds workers for szechuan sauce. Its something to share once they know you better.
Are there women who like Rick and Morty? Of course. If you’re on a dating app it’s all a numbers game and Rick and Morty is one of the easiest ways to get the largest amount of women to immediately dismiss you. I would struggle to find someone who suggests associating yourself with it to increase your chances at going on a date. OP is asking Lemmy for dating profile tips, so I feel you need to make certain things very clear about how to succeed
I largely agree with you, and only object to the “actively repulse women” statement, as its overly broad.
And something about the phrasing came off as a suggestion to hide part of your personality from your partner, which seems like a bad idea. (This could just be me, misinterpreting what your saying)
My wife likes Rick and Morty more than I do, and I think it’s a great show.
It’s definitely a turn off for most women imo, especially because of the shit with Justin Roiland (sp?) being a disgusting creep. Anyone who puts it in their profile because they love it that much is just asking to get swiped left on.
- my wife, who does actually enjoy the show (tho really didn’t like the first season bc they had Rick burping every two seconds and it was gross)
Not the person you asked, but I have the same general sense that most women would not find it a positive thing to list. Without making broad unsupported generalizations about women, I would suggest:
- it’s a TV show, not a personality. It’s a bit much to list as an important detail on a dating profile.
- similar to the first point, there is a stereotype about certain men that made the show their personality. Cringe.
- the show is largely shock humor, irreverent, pithy comedy dialogue. Not bad in and of itself, except when paired with the above mentioned points of it being used as a surrogate personality, or listed as if it’s an important part of a person’s interests.
Anecdotally, my wife also dislikes the show.
I would suggest that listing broad categories of things you like is probably better than an individual thing. E.g., saying you like reading and listing a few authors isn’t weird, but listing one single book seems a little obsessed.
That’s all pretty close to what I’d say. It’s not a popular show amongst women and trying to explain “No, Dan Harmon wrote some really poignant critiques about modern pop culture” is a losing battle when what everyone knows about the show is screaming Szechuan Sauce losers, Justin Roiland’s general sex pest attitude, and generally gross content (including pedophile rape!) Don’t start dating someone by justifying something they dislike, just sell the good parts about yourself
I have a rule of thumb about certain media. If you like Rick and Morty, Joker, Donnie Darko or Fight Club that’s okay. But if any of those are you FAVORITE that’s a low key red flag where I am gonna ask you to explain why…
Those aren’t bad shows/movies, but they all feature very arrogant, can’t-be-bothered-with-dummies, over the top rude men. It’s a very edgy teenage immature thing to adore thess characters for the wrong reasons. It would never be a deal breaker, but it certainly isn’t appealing.
Hell, I’d even go as far as to say don’t put any specific show, game, movie, or book in your bio - just that you play games, watch a genre of shows/movies, or read a genre of books.
I feel like “plays video games” is better than “plays Call of Duty, Apex Predators, and Rainbow Six”.
I’ve noticed most answers are from men; I’m a woman, so perhaps if you are a hetero guy my perspective is useful.
Your photo doesn’t matter more than your bio, it matters just as much, but it will go first in the order of judgement so make sure you have something presentable.
Now for the bio, you are short on words. Pick a few things that really define your character and that you consider your match must be ok with. So if you like metal and rock just say that, don’t waste precious space on all your bands unless you are really, really really into these bands in particular. If you are a harcore fan of rick and Morty, sure include it, otherwise just say you like animation or sci fi.
Same goes for books and movies. If there is an author you are an absolute fan, mention it, otherwise go for a couple genres you are into.
I would start with saying you’re a (career here) student. Saying what you study is useful, it states interests and it’s an easy conversation starter.
Then if you have a quirk or two mention them. They are good conversation starters too. I don’t know, maybe you are one of those people who have the soapy cilantro gene but they still like cilantro or maybe you are particularly skilled at something.
Happy to give further feedback. Good luck out there
I’m a woman and I liked this advice.
My tip: This might sound obvious but I’d have you wear a bright color, like red, in the first photo in your profile. It will catch the eye and stand out a bit. This is not my original thought - I got it from someone who was describing her experience on dating apps and what worked best for her. You want to catch someone’s eye while they are swiping quickly through pictures.
write what you are like, not about the things you like.
What would an example of this look like?
“Fan of Rick and Morty” just says the same thing as “I like Rick and Morty”.
Personally, liking Rick and Morty feels like a red flag for a certain type of person these days. The kind that thinks being a dick is a positive and claims you have to be a genius to understand the show.
talk about your values, what you actually do, your personality traits
“easy going cowboy with a tender heart. sees value in spending time wisely instead of chasing after a rush of blood to the head. you’ll likely find me at the bowling alley knocking back some of that good ole sarsaparilla.”
Why do you enjoy the show? Are you a fan of science fiction? Is your sense of humor rather dark and nihilistic? Does the way the show finds humor in sci fi concepts interest you? Is it about the social and mental health commentary?
Or do you just enjoy potty humor?
Understanding what you like about something is more useful data for a potential partner than even necessarily what you like.
It can also impact which partners will feel safe and comfortable around you.
You just wrote it fam
Just an anecdote:
When I was single last time, I tried tinder for the first time in a very long time. Wrote a few interesting bios. Got some matches, nothing that sparked anything ultimately though.
Then I just changed my bio to (roughly translating from my language) “hey, I create stuff”. Just a few words, no real substance.
Got too many matches to handle, a few really hit off. and one of them I am sharing my life with still.
All this to say, it’s not necessarily important to have a great bio. Maybe it piques peoples’ interest more, even, if it’s very minimal and casual. Not sure what it was, could’ve been just fool’s luck, but just a perspective I thought could be interesting to know.
To add to this/sum it up: the more you have on your profile, the higher the chance it has a dealbreaker.
Think of it in twitter context. If it takes longer than ~7 seconds to read, you are losing half your audience.
Disclaimer: i’m single but have been making online dating profiles for 20 years. also i’ve never had a twitter and the stats i made up and have no proof or source behind them.
