I try everything I can, music, animation, art, programming, even Sports yet no one understands me!
It’s so hard to live with autism, and I’m wondering how I can get help. 😩
Having autism can be quite difficult. We are all in this together. There are people like you going though the same things you just have to know where to look.
Being understood is difficult. I find I’m very intense when it comes to something I’m into. And I talk in long sentences or type walls of text. Those can make it hard for people to respond or interact.
Sometimes you just have to do you and do it with pride.
What exactly do you mean by no one understanding you?
I mean… as an autistic person, when your only statement is “I’ve done this, this, and that. Nobody understands!” Your statement is very critically missing anything to do with what people are failing to understand, or what you’re trying to accomplish. Autism can be hard, but complaining about this as an issue while not actually demonstrating an issue, and actually demonstrating a complete non-issue, is not going to get any help for yourself.
All you have specificied here is that you:
- Do things
- Aren’t understood
What are we supposed to get out of that? Sure, nobody is understanding, but you’ve given nothing to interpret or understand.
If you have issues saying what you have issues with, I can relate, that is something I deal with. Expressing yourself can be hard. What makes it harder is not trying to express anything, because that “expressing” is hard. Express anything, even if it isn’t perfect or close to what you’re thinking, because at least you can hear yourself say it and think “oh, yea that is NOT it.” Eventually you’ll be left with whatever it is.
Huh? What are you trying to say? :/ Sorry I was deliberately being an azzhole. I feel the same way you do. But, I stopped caring a long time ago. I never did fit in with other people, and I was never anyone’s idea of what a human should be. So, fuck 'em and forget 'em. I’m loving the life I was given, I’m gifted and have traits that make me unique. And I love being who I am, and that’s all that really matters. And I kind of like the fact that I get under other people’s skin just by existing. It kind of gives me a greater purpose.
Don’t have autism (at least, I don’t think so 😂), but yeah, I rarely fit into crowds as well. The funny thing is, people usually like me (I’m kinda the clown of the party, but that’s just who I am), but I rarely like them. I don’t avoid contact, at all, but if, let’s say, I exchange numbers with someone, chances are I won’t call you. I just feel like I don’t belong in that particular crowd… don’t know why, I just fell that.
If you want people to understand you, you have to communicate with them what you want them to understand. Explicitly. Don’t drop hints or clues, you have to say it outright. People are not mind readers, or even experts in non verbal communication, not even NTs.
Hopefully the person you convey your feelings to is compassionate and empathetic. Be prepared for if they aren’t though. Don’t be afraid to just drop these kinds of people like a shit in the toilet. Just wipe, flush and walk away. They don’t deserve your time.
That’s good advice. I had to learn that the hard way.
Just because something seems obvious or clear to me, doesn’t mean it does to others. It gets exhausting having to explain everything though. It’s also equally exhausting to ask others to explain what the hell they’re talking about constantly, because they also assume you can read their mind and have the exact same thoughts and reactions that they do.
And then you run into the issue with family or coworkers completely ignoring the things you directly do or say, and throwing their own bizarre interpretations and assumed motivations on top of it, and getting upset when you react.
I’ve had people do and say things that are insulting and combative out of the blue on first time I’ve interacted with them all day, demand I reply, and then get upset of me for starting a fight when I ask why they are being rude, or when I reply in kind.
Maybe I just keep bad company, but it feels like being gaslit 24/7.
