I try everything I can, music, animation, art, programming, even Sports yet no one understands me!
It’s so hard to live with autism, and I’m wondering how I can get help. 😩
What exactly do you mean by no one understanding you?
I mean… as an autistic person, when your only statement is “I’ve done this, this, and that. Nobody understands!” Your statement is very critically missing anything to do with what people are failing to understand, or what you’re trying to accomplish. Autism can be hard, but complaining about this as an issue while not actually demonstrating an issue, and actually demonstrating a complete non-issue, is not going to get any help for yourself.
All you have specificied here is that you:
- Do things
- Aren’t understood
What are we supposed to get out of that? Sure, nobody is understanding, but you’ve given nothing to interpret or understand.
If you have issues saying what you have issues with, I can relate, that is something I deal with. Expressing yourself can be hard. What makes it harder is not trying to express anything, because that “expressing” is hard. Express anything, even if it isn’t perfect or close to what you’re thinking, because at least you can hear yourself say it and think “oh, yea that is NOT it.” Eventually you’ll be left with whatever it is.
Jesus can help you. He understands you. Ask Jesus for help.
Really? Do you have any evidence for that? There is a lot of evidence that he is not. For example http://www.garyhabermas.com/articles/Habermas_Minimal Facts STR 2012.pdf . So you would need to bring counter evidence.
Nope, the burden of evidence is on the one claiming something contradicting current scientific understanding.
There is not much believe necessary. Only that there could be help because someone told them that there is. If they tried everything else, what is the harm in trying it with Jesus?
Your argument is called Pascal’s wager. My main objection is there’s a lot of superstitions to try. If you want maximize the benefit of a strategy like you’re describing, you have to worship every god of every religion, obey every limitation on what you can do in every religion, superstition or conspiracy, take every supposedly magical medicine, ect. They all seem equally unlikely, but they are all believed by someone and if true would have huge benefits, so by your logic I should follow all of them completely. Except by doing that I am sacrificing most of my life for the tiny possibility of a benefit, rather than making the most of the life I know I have.
Jesus was born around 2000 years ago and the oldest person ever recorded lived a bit less than 123 years, so either he’s dead, either he’s hiding very well, and thus can’t do shit either without getting exposed.
Checkmate idiot.
But you might wanna try to get help with Santa tho, and don’t tell me he doesn’t exist, there are many more recorded encounters with Santa than with Jesus.
What is the harm in trying it with the flying spaghetti monster? That’s one of the most funny arguments. As if the alternative to atheism is belief in your god. Like there aren’t a million other ones to choose from. No thank you. If I ever cast my lot with a god, (which is very doubtful) I’ll choose one that at least has a sense of humor.
I don’t think expecting people to understand you is the right mind set. You have to understand them first, why they’re unable to see what you want them to see and guide them to understanding.
Easier said than done but my point is that we shouldn’t blame others for our own inadequacies
Huh? What are you trying to say? :/ Sorry I was deliberately being an azzhole. I feel the same way you do. But, I stopped caring a long time ago. I never did fit in with other people, and I was never anyone’s idea of what a human should be. So, fuck 'em and forget 'em. I’m loving the life I was given, I’m gifted and have traits that make me unique. And I love being who I am, and that’s all that really matters. And I kind of like the fact that I get under other people’s skin just by existing. It kind of gives me a greater purpose.
Don’t have autism (at least, I don’t think so 😂), but yeah, I rarely fit into crowds as well. The funny thing is, people usually like me (I’m kinda the clown of the party, but that’s just who I am), but I rarely like them. I don’t avoid contact, at all, but if, let’s say, I exchange numbers with someone, chances are I won’t call you. I just feel like I don’t belong in that particular crowd… don’t know why, I just fell that.
I try everything I can, music, animation, art, programming, even Sports yet no one understands me!
Language!
Seriously, what i found out is that (kind of) everyone “speaks a different language”. Unforunately, most people are not aware of this, so the burden is on those who do get aware, to communicate in a language that the other one understands. Autistic people tend to use and understand languages differently, in characteristic ways. More formulaic or more complex, for example – thus a difficulty arises in translating their idea, say into somewhat more culturally-associative or sequetial/one-dimensional language.
In other words, i think that i understand you! 🥲
The list of things you tried to express in, those can all be taken as different languages, all with their own complexity and levels of formulaity, suitable for communicating different things. I mean for example, that music and arts can be good for displaying emotions and impressions, among other things. Even Sports can convey a lot of practical philosophy.
So, for me it gets interesting when someone says that they are “not understood” but their list of languages they considered to convey their idea does not include verbal language. That is not a fault. Many people and by far not only ND ones don’t do well in verbal expression. Some of the most proficient exerts are very good at expressing their ideas in math, but ask them to explain all that in plain language or talk about the philosophical implications and they will fail.
Perhaps you are asking for help with coming toward a “translation”, or perhaps it is about finding a suitable way to express. Or perhaps you are asking for someone who could resonate with your way of expression; someone who is able to communicate in your way.
My first question back to/for you may be, could you explain it in words, in what ways is your use of those means of expression you mentioned different/divergent from the way others use them? – Or is it so that you “failed” in those disciplines at expressing your idea (trying to imitate rather than innovate)? (Did you ever think about it?)
There are ways to going by example also online. One place for such things could indeed be the Matrix chat.
The way in which you use a language or an art differently matters! If only few people understand you then you are doing something out of the ordinary. It might be unfitting in your social environment but it might as well be something novel.
Here is an example from me. When I play my drum then I can tell a story. You bet there is rarely a 4/4 beat in that playing, and it’s not just any drum but it’s melodic. Rarely there is someone who would inquire about the playing but rather about the drum … because the technical seems to be talked about more easily than the dramatic, idk. And rarely there is someone who could follow, as the way is intuitive; I never play the exact same thing twice.
I’d also ask you how old you are. It’s because more lifetime brings more experience and less lifetime brings less expectation. … I’m a fourty-eight year old boy who sometimes has something coming through in an odd rhythm on his very own kind of drum, and who sometimes writes multidimensionally, and who makes a distinction between “I” and “i”. And something that i am actually quite bad at but anyway – i’m coming to a conclusion that it’s better to seek the right people to communicate with, than trying to make everyone understand. Trying to explain all that in words might fill books, so it might be more easy to find someone who can understand and follow the drum.
