I’m intersex. Non standard genitals. Times and times again I’m being made to choose to be a man or a woman. My pleas to get minimal hormones just to be healthy are ignored. I’m in medical debt due to dealing with debilitating complications from doctors forcing my body to be either female or male. Letting my body be it’s normal self minus what was causing actual issues was never an option. I’m deeply convinced if nonbinary people were acknowledged this wouldn’t be the case. I’m given zero control. Asking to be put on low dose is ignored. My only option is refusing all hormones and hoping my body will manage. I don’t have natural dysphoria, I get dysphoria from the surgical and hormonal changes forced upon me. I’m tired. Fuck nbphobia.
Intersex folks definitely have it hard, in a lot of ways harder than the rest of us. Depending on where you live, there may be affirming providers in your area if you know where to look. Please DM me if you need help looking in your area.
I’m sorry you have to deal with this. It’s hard enough to have to seek out medical care frequently, and it’s 10x worse when your identity and needs are ignored. I hope you can find a provider that can provide the kind of care you need.
I think one of the goals of intersex visibility and acceptance is realizing you don’t need to be changed. You aren’t broken or defective, even if people often view this as a problem that needs curing. So it’s not just sympathy or support, but as you say, allowing you agency to live your own life and determine your own identity.
Intersex is part of the natural variation of human biology; unfortunately the first reaction of society is to try changing whatever is different, as we’ve seen with failed attempts of conversion therapy for gay and trans people. Forced conformity has a long and destructive history :/
For anyone who is unfamiliar with intersex or sexes in general, there was a good SciShow video on it a few years ago by Hank Green.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kT0HJkr1jj4
OP: I’m sorry for everything you’re going through and the non-binary phobia you’re getting from medical professionals that really should know better!
What the fuck they want you to be binary trans? For fucks sake. There are more nonbinary trans than binary ones!
Are they trans, though? They’re not transitioning, they were born with chimerism. Turns out no, on both counts!
I assumed based on context that they consider themselves nonbinary. I mean if they say its cisgender then fine I can respect that this isnt a medical transition but rather a medical hormone adjustment because they’re intersex. That is maybe a more accurate medical understanding of their sex and why the OP deserves an accurate hormone treatment.
Well, “intersex” (the word OP used) is nonbinary, no? And sometimes characterised by “nonstandard genitalia”. I was only aware of the genetic condition though, if OP is in a different situation then I’m completely unfamiliar. Hopefully I can find more to read, or they can provide a link; I’ll update here if I find anything else.
Ah, I see. I won’t ask, because you’ve said that’s not cool, but when I did Google it I only found similar to the article I linked. I’ll see if I can find anything else, but if you have paper(s) you feel describe what you’re experiencing and would like to provide link(s), I’d love to understand better. Of course, no pressure 😊
