Iโm intersex. Non standard genitals. Times and times again Iโm being made to choose to be a man or a woman. My pleas to get minimal hormones just to be healthy are ignored. Iโm in medical debt due to dealing with debilitating complications from doctors forcing my body to be either female or male. Letting my body be itโs normal self minus what was causing actual issues was never an option. Iโm deeply convinced if nonbinary people were acknowledged this wouldnโt be the case. Iโm given zero control. Asking to be put on low dose is ignored. My only option is refusing all hormones and hoping my body will manage. I donโt have natural dysphoria, I get dysphoria from the surgical and hormonal changes forced upon me. Iโm tired. Fuck nbphobia.
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(I donโt know anything about this stuff but Iโm curious) Why do doctors force you anything? Is it against the law to be nonbinary where you reside?
Yeah but you are posting on the Internet in a forum of discussion. WE ASK QUESTIONS HERE.
True, a very valid point!
I think if a post is meant as rant only, then thereโs no need to reply to questions ๐ค Not even to say that they wonโt do question-answering at all.
Itโs seriously so stupid. I wish people by default didnโt have a gender and got to pick instead of being assigned one at birth. My puberty landed me in the hospital. My sex organs are just completely fucked. Iโd been in pain regularly for 13 years, complaining to so many doctors that just didnโt take me seriously. I wasnโt even out as nonbinary the whole time, only the past three years. I got bottom surgery this summer and I donโt take hormones anymore. I used to diy hormones because itโs just too god damn hard to get the prescribed. I asked my GP for a referral to the most liberal doctor that would give me that surgery, but there was a lot of failure before that.
Keep advocating for yourself. Donโt let anyone convince you that you have to take whatever hormones or have whatever surgery. My transition worked out way better when I found a doctor willing to listen to my troubles and recommended treatment that aligned with my goals. I think surgery saved my life. I had 3 suicide attempts before it and 0 since. The difference in the quality of life is like night and day.
What the fuck they want you to be binary trans? For fucks sake. There are more nonbinary trans than binary ones!
Are they trans, though? Theyโre not transitioning, they were born with chimerism. Turns out no, on both counts!
Ah, I see. I wonโt ask, because youโve said thatโs not cool, but when I did Google it I only found similar to the article I linked. Iโll see if I can find anything else, but if you have paper(s) you feel describe what youโre experiencing and would like to provide link(s), Iโd love to understand better. Of course, no pressure ๐
I assumed based on context that they consider themselves nonbinary. I mean if they say its cisgender then fine I can respect that this isnt a medical transition but rather a medical hormone adjustment because theyโre intersex. That is maybe a more accurate medical understanding of their sex and why the OP deserves an accurate hormone treatment.
Well, โintersexโ (the word OP used) is nonbinary, no? And sometimes characterised by โnonstandard genitaliaโ. I was only aware of the genetic condition though, if OP is in a different situation then Iโm completely unfamiliar. Hopefully I can find more to read, or they can provide a link; Iโll update here if I find anything else.
For anyone who is unfamiliar with intersex or sexes in general, there was a good SciShow video on it a few years ago by Hank Green.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kT0HJkr1jj4
OP: Iโm sorry for everything youโre going through and the non-binary phobia youโre getting from medical professionals that really should know better!
