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I guess my issue is that other than ideological reasons (reddit alternatives are good) there’s nothing that NSFW Lemmy does better than anywhere else i go.

My niches/kinks/preferences aren’t represented or are actively denigrated in the bigger NSFW communities and the smaller more niche ones don’t have the activity or quantity of posts to make this place a “must visit” or introduce me to things i haven’t seen before

Instead of becomes an app i only remember to check every week or two, compared to something like Mastodon, which i use daily.

then when i try to submit something to a community the Sync app gives me an “this image cannot be uploaded” error with no further explanation and i decide that posting the 5-10 images i found actually isn’t worthwhile after all.

I’m really glad this place exists but I’m struggling to participate in it

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I would recommend uploading to carbox or redgifs and pasting the link into the post, even on the subs on reddit mod that’s what I tell people. The site image hosting solutions on both lemmy and reddit aren’t great.

I personally like catbox because you don’t have to make an account.

Additionally, growth takes time, some of the kinks with the platform will be slowly worked out, and more people will come, our usersbase since the initial dropoff of users has slowly being going up for the most part.

About a decade ago, Reddit was also a site you checked every week or so. I think our growth is already faster than those old days of Reddit, and it may take a year or two for things like better more users, better mod tools, better post algorithms, and more stability in apps to show up, but for a social media network that isn’t for profit, lemmy us doing very well and will continue to get better and better and thrive more and more

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Yup. Not enough content. Too many debates.

Also nothing unquie.

It’s porn. Keep is simple. More is more. Let’s the place evolve into niches rather than force it and control it at the get go. It’s like worrying about macros when there is a famine.

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Too many debates.

What’s wrong with a mass debate?

Seriously though, if you want to drive engagement asking people about things is a good way of doing it.

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My niches/kinks/preferences aren’t represented or are actively denigrated in the bigger NSFW communities

Did you try FetLife?

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Oh I’m sorry, i meant specifically “photos and illustrations of the kinds of women i specifically like tend to get downvoted here on NSFW Lemmy and the niche communities aren’t active enough”

The corresponding Reddit subreddits are active enough that i don’t have have to visit any general purpose subreddits.

IRL I’m happily married. Spouse and i are pretty open minded about porn/hentai/NSFW

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Ah ok it was just a suggestion. Because on fet pretty much anything goes, no kinkshaming :) But yes Reddit is still pretty good for some niches.

It’s indeed sad that it happens here sometimes though it’s more people downvoting in the hope to see less of the content in their feeds. I don’t think that actually works because the amount of content here is so low that you get to see everything anyway unless you block the sub communities.

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Would be nice to see more OC content and even the bit more artsy attempts, like BW photos, polaroids and such, the kind of content that you can still find on tumblr or some reddit subs (bwnudes, bwerotica, etc).

We often browse all platforms for inspiration but this dry repost from redgif and the same pictures from the last 20 years is kinda vibe killing, might work for some tho, it’s not much to “lure” more people because, as we see, it can be easily found everywhere else. So why would they “install one more app”.

So in general the community needs to grow with more genuine content creators, but it’s kinda hard upscale without getting flooded by OF spam machines (like on reddit).

How to recruit? Good question.

The positive: we get way more upvotes here compared to reddit because of the less noise i guess. Not so many comments tho, except our only fan here Pirate_Barnes 🥰

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I’m guilty of upvoting and not commenting, I’ll have to make more of an effort because you always post great pics of yourselves 🙂

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5 points

Thank you for the love 🥰

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6 points

That’s my biggest fan too!!

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He even wrote a message when we stopped posting for a few weeks. ☺️

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3 points

Nice!

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11 points

This isn’t a feature of the instance specifically but a feature that really helped me find new NSFW content. In certain Reddit apps I was able to filter by only NSFW content and in one there was a random NSFW subreddit option. It was so helpful to be able to easily discover new content. No Lemmy app has implemented anything with a NSFW focus.

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I agree, discoverability of these these types of things needs to be better. Perhaps we can implement something like that, or have a community of the week or something. This is a very good point.

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That’s why I came to this instance. I can just browse local since that filter doesn’t exist.

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Maybe I’m just not looking in the right spots, but I’d like to see more engagement. One of the things I enjoyed most about Reddit was that the comments were generally pretty lively, even if it was just folks being horny. Here it feels a lot like screaming into the void, people see posts and votes are cast, but there’s not really any conversation. I get that nobody wants to be the guy in need of horny jail, but I feel like something as simple as “that porn star is super hot, have you seen her in X?” or “she has a great figure, but only posts mildly on Instagram” would be a nice way to this place feel less dead.

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6 points

Definitely agree with this

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5 points

Porn, and more porn

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Ask Lemmy NSFW

!asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com

Create post

Think /r/AskLemmy but way more NSFW.

Treat this community like a cross between /c/AskLemmy, /c/Sex, and /c/Fetishes.

RULES:

  • All posts must be in the form of a question and be largely NSFW.

  • Only text posts are allowed. Links can be posted if they are very relevant.

POST GUIDELINES:

  • Try to avoid questions that can simply be googled or have yes/no answers.

  • Search before you post. Your question may have been asked before.

  • If you ask medical/physical questions don’t always trust the comments here.

COMMENT GUIDELINES:

  • Avoid low-effort comments. Lone images, memes, jokes etc.

  • Treat all questions as if they’re real, no matter how ridiculous.

  • Follow reddiquette with all reponses to avoid downvotes & removal.

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