Doesn’t have to be a thing you bought. Just some thing you didn’t have but then once you did it expanded your scope of actions.
The first obvious example that comes to mind is a car. Plenty of drawbacks to prevalence of cars, but being able to go where I want when I want, and far away, is very transformative.
I’m interested in other examples of things that aren’t just useful, but that open new possibilities.
I had a teacher advise me to make a habit of occasionally seeking out embarrassment, to stay in the habit, and prevent being paralyzed by fear of embarrassment.
I’ve followed that advice for years, and it’s like a super power.
I’ve done so much cool shit that a previous version of myself would have been afraid to try.
I don’t even remember all the embarrassing stuff, even though there’s plenty. The cool stuff is what sticks in my memory, even though I’m prone to remembering my mistakes.
Saw a Ted talk that said the same thing. The guy over came some social anxiety by actively putting himself in an awkward situation each day (his was asking if he could get his coffee for free at the coffee shop). Once he got use to low stakes situations where people were surprised, confused or mildly judgemental (but also amused or just disinterested) it was easier to do things that actually mattered without worrying about people’s reactions. And he got a few free coffees.
First step is to post something onpopular but true on Lemmy, and be OK with the downvotes. I dare you all. :)
HAMAS are terrorists and a part of the New Axis of fascist dictatorships which consist of Russia, Iran, China and North Korea among other minor countries and militant groups. Free Palestine movement is their loud, but in the grand scheme of thinga inconsequential piece of propaganda. TikTok is one the main propaganda tools of the Axis. There. Got downvoted for this plenty of times. Good thing the useful idiots are just a loud minority of primarily well-off USA students who cosplay being communists without understanding a thing about communism.
Dance. Started dancing (taking classes) at 350lbs 4 ½ months ago, still going now at 295lbs. Everything is sooo much easier. First exercise I really liked, improves my flexibility, strength, and cardio. And I feel mad sexy doing it.
I’d highly recommend playing Dance Dance Revolution, if you’re at all interested. Very fun way to burn lots of calories. There’s an open source clone called StepMania. If you really end up enjoying it, you’re going to want to invest in some high quality metal dance pads. Worth every penny though, in my opinion.
By the way, I’m 400 pounds. I know your struggle. I’ve lost well over 100 pounds playing StepMania before. Unfortunately I’ve had some bad events put me in a bad depression, which caused me to gain it back.
By the way, I’m 400 pounds. I know your struggle. I’ve lost well over 100 pounds playing StepMania before. Unfortunately I’ve had some bad events put me in a bad depression, which caused me to gain it back.
As an arcade gamer, myself, I’ve never seen anybody who could play a DDR game like someone who put the time in as part of an exercise regiment. It’s so cool to watch. Like other game masters, but that much more impressive for the physical commitment.
When I run into an exercise gamer at the arcade, I always stick around to see what I can learn by watching. I can often spot them by their vibe - there’s a recognizable patience of someone who already committed to getting their steps in, and is just waiting for the machine to free up.
Admittedly, I usually I don’t learn much by watching, because I’m not anywhere near their league. But I have gotten some great beginner tips from the ones who hang around between sets.
Anyway, mad props. Playing those games for health tends to elevate it to a high art form. It’s crazy cool to watch at the arcade. I suppose any sport can, but of course ‘dance’ is right there in the name.
Edit: Also, sorry you’re dealing with setbacks. I hope things ease up for you.
I am handicapped and in early retirement. I had a hard time going on walks, got tired fast, there was always the fear of stumbling/falling again and carrying a bag was painful using a backpack made me getting tired faster.
I bought an expensive walking helper /walker with 4 wheels (not something you sit on and drive, but walk behind), a seat and a big bag for shopping. I feel like superwoman now when I am on a walk, because I can walk longer, buy stuff and just put it on the thing and it is so easy to get even heavy stuff home and whenever I get tired and no matter where I am, I just sit down, relax, power comes back and I can keep going.
The best thing I have ever bought in my whole life.
I was told this is only for very old people and that it looks ridiculous at my age and that I would not need it by everyone, fuck them. It is pure quality of life and increases my power to over 9000! I have been more outside in the last 12 months, than in the 5 years before that because of it.
Internet. I’ve lived in rural areas most of my life and only in the last five years was able to start gaming with friends and watching unlimited video. I feel much less resentment that people don’t want to visit me and am happier getting my social needs met in person by physically going out less often (I still get out once a week ish)
It’s not a replacement for intimate relationships but any means, but I do think it can enhance them with healthy boundaries n whatnot. I went through a rough break up recently that’s had me realizing I’d like a partner that’s ok with me having space to chill with friends day to day but still making time for each other.
Money.
As sad as it is, it’s true. I was broke for so many years that I even today, after years of having some, it eats at me paying so much for a car or other stuff. And I don’t know if I should change. I think I’ll never will anyways. Just trying to help without being exploited. First: tell no one how much money your project (or whatever) made. Wife and kid know, obviously, no one else. ESPECIALLY not “family”. But it’s a super power in our world that one could get lawful justice if anybody does you wrong. Without any money, you won’t. From experience. And the daily anxiety is gone. Ok, not gone, but very, very small. Completely without I’d be too lazy in the long run, I presume.
