I’ve been happily posting away here on two accounts since just before the Great Migration, and have no problem being openly a woman on the internet. Up to and including correcting people who assume I’m a guy, and even occasionally acknowledging the existence of periods.
Which, honestly that was a bad tactic back on Reddit, my inbox was a nightmare. But here it’s gone much better, so thank you to anyone who ever received one of my corrections with good grace!
It’s also brought quite a few DMs my way from other women who try to stay more anonymous with their posts, a choice I can completely understand.
So today on International Women’s Day I just want to wave hello to the other women out there, even if you don’t want to break cover and wave back. Anonymous or not, cis or trans, I see you out there and you’re killing it.
This may break the community rule on encouraging discussion, if nobody wants to out themselves to say hello back. So I guess I should also ask a question.
Um…anyone else using it as an excuse to treat themselves today? I’ve given myself the day (mostly) off work and am doing some fun gamedev all afternoon instead, then we’re planning a takeaway tonight. Easily pleased, perhaps, but sounds good to me 😄
There are dozens of us! But seriously I’ve been so happy to be a lady on here and have good conversations with damn near everyone. As for treating myself, I am looking forward to my husband cooking us a nice dinner this weekend.
Oh nice, what’s the food plan? Or is it a surprise?
We’ll be having crispy hawaiian tofu tomorrow which is just about my fave food in the whole world, husband is also doing the cooking (he actually does that every day because he’s one of those weirdos who enjoy it). Still very much looking forward to it though, not having to cook for myself never gets old!
We alternate cooking special meals on the weekends. Last weekend I didn’t a pulled pork butt in the crockpot and this weekend he’s going to do a nice steak dinner with mashed potatoes. Beef is a little expensive right now but we both wanted a real treat.
Would be very curious to hear about more about your husband’s crispy hawaiian tofu! I love tofu in any and all fashions and am always interested to find new ways to make it :)
It started with this recipe although I have no idea what tweaks he’s made to it since! https://www.rabbitandwolves.com/crispy-hawaiian-garlic-tofu-vegan/
I do know the trick for us is to freeze the tofu first but as a fellow enjoyer I daresay you’ve got your own favourite prep method already.
Cheers to the women of the fediverse, and the world, on your day. Glad to have you around :)
Happy International Women’s Day, everyone!
Thanks, definitely genuinely esteemed Academy Award nominated (but not this year) character actress Margot Robbie!
That’s definitely genuine esteemed Academy Award nominated (but not this year) character actress Margot Robbie to you!
Hiii! Happy International Women’s Day! Transwoman here.
I never understood why some people are so weird online. I’ve gotten tons of creepy messages. I have an Instagram account where I only post my nail art and I get tons of creepy DMs on there. It happened when I posted pics on nail subreddits as well but I didn’t post there as much.
I really don’t know if I’m going to be able to treat myself today as I have been feeling very low energy for the past couple days but I’ve been able to take a nice long shower and do some self-care and I still have some energy left so that’s promising.
Since I have to leave the house to go to the drug store today, I might pick up some new skincare products while I’m there. I’ve been meaning to get a new exfoliating face mask for a long time, maybe today will be the day!
Oh that sounds like the perfect treat, take the self-care to that next level!
My old IG account was mostly photos of cross stitch projects and yep, you guessed it, still got creeps. People are absolutely wild. I guess it’s because we had the gall to show our naked hands?!
I hope you’re feeling a bit better soon, those low energy days (or weeks, or months) are the worst.
My old IG account was mostly photos of cross stitch projects and yep, you guessed it, still got creeps. People are absolutely wild. I guess it’s because we had the gall to show our naked hands?!
Wow. Yeah, how dare we! We might have to start wearing mittens when posting so we don’t attract all those hand, nail and cross stitch fetishists 😭 (Edit: Just want to make it clear that I don’t mean to kink shame anyone. I’m cool with any kink/fetish as long as it hurts no one. It’s just about the weird, creepy and sometimes actually scary DMs)
those low energy days (or weeks, or months) are the worst.
Oof yeah, it often does end up being weeks and months but I’ve been getting more and more breaks between them so I’m hopeful!
I never felt weird posting to Reddit that I was a woman, and never got any weird dms or anything… no clue why, just luck I suppose. Or could have to do with where/how I shared that info… either way I was openly asexually female for the entire 5 years I had an actual account. Worst that happened was a bit of banter with a user about whether or not boobs float (something I honestly don’t know); they told me to go check and report back and I said their man boobs would be more likely than mine to float since I’m thin and not well endowed.
But I’ve been more vocal about it here because Lemmy is an absolute sausage party, and it’s so so so so obvious. It hasn’t been weird here at all either, but there also aren’t a lot of conversations in which I feel it necessary to divulge (probably because it’s a sausage party, so those sorts of conversations don’t happen as much)
I wasn’t using that as a treat myself excuse, but I’m shopping for a fancy new bed frame (with headboard storage, power strip, lights, and drawers underneath to keep my cats out) and it was gunna be a birthday gift to myself, but now it’s a women’s day/birthday gift 🤭
You definitely dodged some weirdos over there, well done!
I think from conversations I’ve had, a lot of women had such bad experiences on Reddit they decided to go anonymous on here and I wonder if that’s actually why it seems like such a “sausage party” in the first place 🤔
Oh well, mostly irrelevant really, as you say it’s not like it constantly comes up! Happy birthday and congrats on that fancy new frame, it sounds awesome!
Hey thanks! I got a really high quality ultra plush mattress for myself last year, and it’s about time it had a nice frame to go on. Plus then I can use the old frame and decent mattress in the spare room, and give away the shitty futon that’s in there. Win win.
I was around the internet back in the pre-social media days of “tits or gtfo” and all, so I know I dodged a firestorm of bullets. 😳
I saw some sort of demographic poll a while back about the makeup of fedi users, and it was something like 10% being female? I suppose that’s probably a self-selected response type thing and probably not super accurate depending how they went about finding participants, and It’s probably also highly dependent upon the instance, but that’s why I said it’s a sausage party. Also every post about ladies things is like 80% “I’m a guy but”, which is fine and all but… feels sausagy.
We’re middle aged and still make our guests sleep on an airbed on the floor of the craft room, so two actual decent beds in one house sounds so grownup to me you wouldn’t believe 😅
In our defence though we both work from home and I need somewhere to keep all this yarn, whereas house guests are relatively rare. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!
I said their man boobs would be more likely than mine to float since I’m thin and not well endowed.
Jokes on you! I’m a man and I’m also thin and not well endowed.
That means the same thing for men as it does for women, right?
